Is Your Support Making Things Worse? How to Help Without Pushing Them Away | Lisa Bilyeu (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture

4.8 • 700 Ratings

🗓️ 23 May 2025

⏱️ 32 minutes

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This is a Fan Favorite episode. It’s your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to another killer episode of Women of Impact—the podcast where we don’t just talk about change, we freaking LIVE IT. And today, I’m bringing you something extra special: a Not-So-Solo Q&A, where I get to bring someone SUPER close to my heart onto the show—my very own mum, Diana! We’re sitting down, raw and real, right in the thick of quarantine, and breaking down some of the juiciest questions you guys have thrown my way: How do you help a loved one create real transformation in their life? What actually works to shift your OWN mindset and habits—especially when it feels impossible? And, let’s get honest, how do you spark change when you feel like you’ve tried everything and nothing’s working? (Spoiler: It’s not about nagging!) You’ll get actionable advice on separating emotion from logic, building new habits from a place of self-love INSTEAD of self-hate, and helping those you love…even when it feels freaking impossible. Plus, you’ll hear the mind-blowing story of how my mum, at almost 70, lost over 115 pounds and transformed her health—not because anyone forced her, but because she found her WHY. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Lisa kicks off with a solo Q&A and hints at a special surprise guest 00:47 Debunking assumptions—nope, it’s not Tom! 01:12 Lisa shares call-in/live Q&A logistics and invites 03:14 How to separate emotion from logic when making decisions 04:36 Setting boundaries for emotional recovery and habit-building 06:42 Motivation for working out—switching from guilt and punishment to emotional connection and self-challenge 10:18 Special guest reveal: Lisa’s mum, Diana, joins the show 10:54 Diana’s health transformation: losing 115+ pounds at almost 70 13:25 What finally made Diana want to change—her internal shift and finding the right WHY 15:04 Overcoming old patterns, habits, and excuses 17:36 The surprising power of removing pressure and setting small, realistic time frames 18:33 Diana answers: Did she try weight loss surgery? What really worked? 19:53 Navigating family support without crossing into judgment 20:42 Should you share inspiring content with loved ones? (Why ultimately, change has to come from within) 22:21 How to talk to people you love without making them feel “not enough” 23:10 Lisa’s journey balancing caring for her mum’s health while keeping unconditional love front and center FOLLOW DIANA (Lisa’s Mum): Diana Bilyeu is not currently on public social media, but you can catch more of her story and updates by following me, Lisa Bilyeu: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu Women of Impact Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenofimpact/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/WomenofImpact CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ ********************************************************************** Thanks to YOU, Women of Impact was named the #1 Badass Female Podcast by MillionPodcasts. Check out the full roundup of fearless shows: ⁠millionpodcasts.com/badass-female-podcasts⁠. ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:55.6	coronavirus quarantine and needless to say it's been a trying time for all of us. We've had to change
1:00.5	our daily routines, many of us haven't even left the house, gyms are closed and overnight,
1:05.1	most of our relationships went virtual. So how can we come out of this quarantine stronger,
1:09.7	healthier and even more connected?
1:11.8	Well, I've taken this opportunity to talk to some of my favorite people on my Instagram live to get their advice on these very issues and have found the conversation so freaking helpful that I wanted to share them here as well.
1:23.2	So over the next couple of months, we'll be posting bonus episodes every Friday to help us get through this quarantine stronger together.
1:29.5	It's time for another solo Q&A, but this time I'm going to change it up a bit, and I'm bringing
1:35.1	on someone very special last minute, which they didn't actually realize they were going to be
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