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Hello and welcome back to Oversharing.

I'm Jordana Abraham.

And I am Dr. Naomi Bernstein. Welcome back to our

pre-valentine's day episode. We've got a lot of relationship issues that we're going to delve into.

Totally. You know, being single, being partnered, it really does, a lot of it has to do with our nervous system.

I think that people don't realize there's just a level of safety that I think having a

partner brings you that is hard to navigate when you're single.

I think a lot of, you know, Valentine's Day can be sticky if you're in a relationship and you have certain expectations, but it can be really sticky if you're not in a relationship too.

And something that I have been seeing a lot in my patience is this idea of people being single for longer than they want to be and really trying to wrap

their head around how do I feel good about myself single? How do I feel confident and happy and

not clinging or striving for a relationship and do all this work on being super independent

and then establish kind of a self-confidence around

that. And then they get into a relationship and it all just sometimes feels much easier.

And so they're stuck feeling like, was I lying to myself?

And I think that's true about anything that you're kind of seeking,

but you're trying to convince yourself that you're okay and happy without, because you know what

I mean? The advice is a little conflicting. The advice is always like, live in the moment and enjoy the

life you have. You know, you don't need anyone to be, to be happy or you don't need anything

outside of yourself to be happy, whether that's

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