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Julius, welcome to the program.

Hey, how's it going, Dr. Laura? How are you doing? Good. Good. What's up? Good. Good.

So I need some advice, relationship advice, considering getting married to my girlfriend and older you. I need a little background here. Holder you hold. She I'm 39. She's 41. I'll be turning 40 in September.

I'm still never going to catch up to her. Just doesn't work that way. Sorry. And either one of you married divorced kids.

No, I'm single. Never been married. She has a kid from a previous relationship that didn't work out and that's kind of a while. I'm calling.

I had a kid before she knew if the relationship was going to work out. Yeah, yeah, she does. Does it make sense to you? No, it doesn't. And how old is said kid?

She'll be turning six of me. You can't be seeing this woman. You can't be marrying her. What you never listen to my program.

I already lost an intact family with a dad because mom and dad couldn't get along. They could screw and make me. But other than that, they didn't want to get along be together and raise me together. They didn't want to make that much of a commitment to me.

And now there's this new guy and the chances of your marriage with her lasting are only under 30%. Well, second marriages. She didn't have a marriage.

Marriages with prior kids have a 70% failure rate because you think you're going to be the daddy. She knows she's the mom. Your opinion.

We won't even be second. Please don't do this to this kid. Please don't do this to this kid, especially if you get married start cranking out babies by accident or intent.

She doesn't need to compete with a kid that you feel more connected to because you upgrade it.

Please don't do this. I'm begging you don't do this. Yeah.

It has enough to deal with. She doesn't need to deal with the drama between the two of you.

And I bet there's drama or you wouldn't have called. Oh, there's definitely drama. So you want to kid in the middle of drama. You're that selfish. No. No. No.

But I'm curious. What's the drama between the two of you? Do you know the drama between the bio dad and her? What was her drama with him?

I know he just didn't work. Didn't do anything. Doesn't pay child support. And that was like a we got in a kind of a argument over the.

Let me understand something. She's dating and screwing a guy with no job. Yeah. Or she she was. Why do you want a woman like this?

I mean, I do care about it. You know, it doesn't matter. That's not relevant. I asked you why you're dating and thinking of marrying a woman like that.

I believe you know, I I love her. You know, we do. It doesn't matter if you love her that you love her worries me. Yeah. It worries me. Yeah.

I think you're a savior. So Galahad and night in shining armor going to protect her from herself and the world.

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