Is it too late?

This is a question I get from very anxious, concerned women quite often.

And usually these women are in their late 30s, early 40s, and they're scared that it's too late.

They're scared that they might not find their person and them being a little older just

further expands that fear because it's bad enough that women are constantly receiving messaging that once you pass 30 you are

expired.

That's the word these men use, expired, which I think is a very interesting word because the concept

of something being expired means that it has a window of use.

And usually something that has a window of use and has an expiry date is a product that you consume.

Which... is a product that you consume, which again proves my point that men tell on themselves,

even when they don't think they're saying anything at all.

Because for men to call women expired, that means that they agree that women are in fact seen and treated as products, commodities to be consumed, resources to be used for men's benefit.

And normally when something has passed its expiration date, it's not as efficient, is it? It's not useful. It could even have toxic harm to you.

But what does it mean for a woman to be expired? It means that she is not fertile anymore, usually. But it also

means that she's not desirable anymore because the function and role a woman is supposed to

fulfill is desirability because your beauty is supposed to entice men and keep them entertained.

But when you are no longer able to fulfill that purpose, then you become invisible.

So it seems, though.

A lot of women really battle with this concept of not finding the one after a certain age.

And I really empathise with those women because I don't think it's their fault for wanting to find

the one and feeling this urgency and fear that something bad is going to happen if they don't

find the one. Because the something bad that happens is loneliness, solitude, watching other people crack on with this life stage thing and feeling like you are missing out on something irreplaceable.

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