If you feel like nothing you do is right in your relationship, head over to my other podcast

loveandabuseoverloveandabuse.com. It's where I talk about those under the radar behaviors

that so many people get away with. Life presents the toughest challenges. Every day you are faced with

decisions that test your ability to express who you really want to be in this world. We're told

to keep saying affirmations and keep thinking positively, but what do you do when that stuff

doesn't work? Welcome to the overwhelmed brain, where you'll learn to make decisions that are

right for you so that you can create the life you want now.

Hey, this is Paul Coliani and I want to help you increase your emotional intelligence,

handle toxic situations with grace and ease, and give you the tools to show up as your authentic

self. Everything I talk about in this show is my personal opinion and is meant for informational

and educational purposes only. Always consult a medical or psychological professional before

making any changes that could affect your physical or mental health. All right, very happy that you

are here listening to this show of all the things that you could be doing right now. Actually,

you're probably doing something right now besides listening, but since you are listening to this show,

I am grateful. Thank you for tuning in for this first segment. I want to talk about the words that

we use when we think we might be doing something wrong or something hurtful to someone and we use

the words, is it me or is it them? I don't know if you've said that before. I don't know if I

have said that before, but maybe I always thought it was them, but when we think, is it me or is it

them? I'm going to let a lot of people off the hook right now. If you're one of those types of

people that reflect and ponder and think about what you could be doing wrong or think about how

you could improve yourself in some way or how you could show up differently to someone, it's probably

them. So if you have ever arted the words, is it me or them? Am I doing something wrong here?

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