Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. On today's episode, a certified

sex therapist is here to talk about what it means to have safe sex. We're going to call her Maria.

All right. So thinking about this topic of safe sex, especially the question, is healthy sex

possible after intimate betrayal? I mean, where do we even start? You know, when we choose our spouse,

it's really a matter of, I'll keep you safe and you keep

me safe and we'll look out for each other. So when our person has secretive behaviors,

whether with another person or with pornography, this is a safety risk. Yeah, because the lying and the gaslighting

is all emotional and psychological abuse. Yes. In the support group, I often hear stories of how

women feel, some throw up, some can't breathe. Some can't get off the floor because

their person is their person for safety. And when they are betrayed, they're not safe. I felt that

right after my husband's arrest when I realized that things were really bad.

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