The thought of family gatherings gives the best of anxiety. Navigating close relationships and those once or twice a year holiday encounters doesn’t have to be so intimidating with the right tools.  The key is recognizing that you have disordered boundaries, and the Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, is back with us again to make this super easy to follow. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. The steps she lays out for you to take the Resentment Inventory are life changing.  We all tell ourselves lies to avoid the conflict and get around difficult conversations but this doesn’t make our relationships any better, and it leaves us with more stress than being succinct, accurate, and honest about our preferences from the start. By the time you finish this episode you’ll have the skills and strategies you’ll need to identify your disordered boundaries that need work, and catch the amplified emotions that are stemming from childhood traumas. Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Terri Coles 0:36 | Take A Resentment Inventory 6:40 | Self Blame for Broken Boundaries 13:00 | Learned Boundaries From Childhood 23:19 | Reading Emotional Boundaries 30:48 | Unmet Needs In Relationship 34:43 | Internal Boundaries Are A Must 35:30 | Codependent Relationships 45:47 | Are You Auto-Advising People? 52:22 | Suppressed Anger Boundaries 58:40 | Tips To Express Your Boundaries 1:05:01 | Strategies for Family Gatherings 1:13:50 | Broken Boundaries Have Real Consequences Follow Terri Cole: Website: https://www.terricole.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw  Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/  Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices