All right, my friends, if the new year is the natural time of organization and self-reflection,

I think summer is the natural time of fun, happiness, and joy.

But it breaks my heart that so many women have such a hard time

accessing those feelings and having fun experiencing pleasure,

really being able to rest and relax because of the way the society programs us to think and the types of

thoughts the society instills in our brains about being lazy, not being

productive, not having deserved time off, not deserving pleasure, or just having to run around like chickens

with our heads cut off all the time, trying to keep everybody else happy and perform our

goodness all the time. None of that is very happy making. And listen,

if it feels like the world is on fire and you wonder if it's frivolous or selfish or being in denial to care about your

own happiness at this moment I just want you to pause and ask yourself who

benefits when you think that way and who taught you to think that way and who taught you to think that way and

who does society tell to think that way because I just don't see a lot of men

being told or being police to think that because there is political

trouble or there are humanitarian crises across the world or whatever else is

happening that they personally should not be allowed to get a full night sleep or go play a golf game with their friends or spend time with their families or whatever it is that makes them feel happy and fulfilled.

I more than anyone am proof that when you actually stop to care about how you feel on a daily basis,

when you give yourself a fraction of the attention and care that you give everyone else in your life,

you show up to serve in such a bigger way.

When I didn't believe that I deserved pleasure, when I didn't believe that I should ever be allowed

to rest, when I didn't believe that I should be able to choose my own life

path based on what truly would make me happy in the big picture life fulfillment sense,

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