Interrupting Your Bonding Pattern
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 7 September 2022
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
Just because there isn’t money or children involved doesn’t mean that a friendship is any easier of a relationship. In an episode devoted to friend relationships, two callers are under constant fear that they’ll suddenly lose their friends. The first caller wants to reconnect with a friend who already cut her out of their life once before, which Iyanla fears will only happen again. The next caller develops personal attachments to the clients she works with, and then feels like she loses a friend once the client moves on. Iyanla identifies a major issue for both of them: They are repeating their bonding patterns over and over.
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| 0:00.0 | I amma. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my |
| 0:08.4 | relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships. |
| 0:19.0 | So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes. |
| 0:26.4 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I-Heart Radio. How do we attract and connect to other people? It's called bonding patterns. And bonding patterns are something I don't |
| 0:56.8 | think we talk enough about when it comes to our relationships. Now these |
| 1:01.8 | relationships can be friendships, love-sh or even family ships, you know I make all relationship a ship. |
| 1:10.0 | And each one of them teach us something that we create and attract over and over and over in all relationships. |
| 1:21.0 | That's what a bonding pattern is. Something we've learned that we |
| 1:26.0 | subconsciously hold that becomes the attraction mechanism or what we search for in our relationships. |
| 1:35.0 | And let me tell you, most of the time, |
| 1:38.0 | the bonding patterns we develop naturally are not healthy. It takes work to identify how your bonding pattern is |
| 1:47.6 | working and whether or not it's working for you then you must do the work to heal it, change it, correct it. |
| 1:55.0 | So in today's episode, both of my callers are facing their bonding patterns head on, |
| 2:01.0 | and we are going to support them in identifying and correcting those |
| 2:06.8 | patterns so let's get started. Good afternoon my. How are you? |
| 2:13.0 | I'm doing well, how are you? |
| 2:15.0 | Hi Yolum! |
| 2:17.0 | I am blessed and I welcome you to the R-Spot. |
| 2:21.0 | So what is your challenge issue dilemma upset breakdown so that we can have a breakthrough today? |
| 2:27.0 | Okay so essentially Yana like my pain point in life has been like my friendships with women and essentially like you know I've had a friend that just has decided to no longer be a friend and it's been years now. We stopped being friends, we came back |
| 2:44.9 | together and then just haven't really been able to reconnect and now I see like her |
| 2:50.4 | daughter's growing up and how I was like, you know, just so close with them and now |
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