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I should note going into this talk

that this is not a replacement for the talk I gave a couple of weeks ago on setting boundaries

and stating needs, which is essential in core relationships to know how to stay clearly what we need to feel safe and be in any kind of friendship or relationship with someone,

as well as know for ourselves which actions, behavior, situations

create a sense of vulnerability or a situation where we no longer feel taken care of or seen or understood and knowing

to, for ourselves, not to put ourselves, be very clear what the conditions are that lead to a felt

sense of vulnerability.

So this talk is more about situations that rise up, not regularly, but interactions with people that for a variety of

different ways are very challenging.

And so again, it's not meant to supplant.

These techniques are not meant to supplants, dating needs, and

setting boundaries and relationships.

In fact, any ongoing relationship

we should be capable of taking care of ourselves.

So before I jump into the some of the underlying psychological insights that will go into some of the practices.

I just want to note up front that the Buddha had some very interesting strategies

for dealing with very difficult people.

He tended to limit the topics that he would be willing to discuss to simply the causes of suffering and the ways to diminish or essentially modulate,

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