Inside Family Wounds with Marriage and Family Therapist Vienna Pharaon
Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari
Dear Media
4.2 • 3.3K Ratings
🗓️ 3 March 2026
⏱️ 79 minutes
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Summary
I'm joined by Vienna Pharaon, one of the most sought-after family therapists, to dive into how our family dynamics shape all of our relationships, starting in childhood and echoing into adulthood. We explore the five core origin wounds—worthiness, belonging, prioritization, trust, and safety—and how they show up in parenting, romantic relationships, and even conflict with an ex.
We talk honestly about the impact of divorce on kids, navigating co-parenting with a narcissistic ex (especially when they trash you to the kids), and how to help children process emotions when they don’t yet have the words. From teens who won’t open up, to kids struggling with step-families, to the emotional whiplash of moving house-to-house—nothing is off-limits.
You’ll learn practical ways to support kids through transitions, ease them back into routine after a tense time at the other parent’s house, and show up for them even when they’re pulling away. We also zoom out to remind ourselves: we’re all going to mess up our kids one way or another—but accountability, repair, and nervous-system regulation go a long way.
Along the way, we unpack what a healthy romantic relationship actually looks like, how to calm your nervous system when you’re triggered, and how healing yourself changes everything—for you and your kids.
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The Quiz: https://viennapharaon.com/origin-wound-quiz/
The Origin Healing Method: https://courses.viennapharaon.com/the-origin-healing-method
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast is a dear media production. |
| 0:04.4 | This is Let's Be Honest with Kristen Cavalery, a podcast all about getting real and open on everything |
| 0:10.1 | from sex, relationships, reality TV, wellness, family, and so much more. |
| 0:15.7 | And just a fair warning, there will probably be some oversharing. |
| 0:22.3 | Welcome, guys. I am so excited for today's conversation. We are being joined by |
| 0:27.5 | Vienna Farron. She's a licensed marriage family therapist, and she's actually one of New York |
| 0:32.2 | City's most sought after a relationship therapist. She's practiced therapy for over 15 years, and she's the founder and |
| 0:38.9 | owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. She received her Master of Science |
| 0:44.5 | and Marriage and Family Therapy from Northwestern University and trained extensively at the |
| 0:49.7 | Family Institute, Betty D. Harris Center. Her book, The Origins of You is a National Best Seller. |
| 0:56.6 | Diana, welcome. Thank you so much for being here. I'm so excited to talk to you today. |
| 1:00.9 | Yeah, thanks for having me. I'm excited to see where our conversation goes. I know. Well, okay, so I want |
| 1:06.8 | to talk a lot about our childhoods and how they shape us into the adults that we are today |
| 1:11.7 | and how the trauma that we experienced as kids, it really affects all of our relationships. |
| 1:17.1 | And then I also want to talk about what we can be doing as parents to break patterns |
| 1:20.7 | and make sure that we're not projecting our own pain onto our kids. |
| 1:24.5 | So that's kind of the direction that we're going to go today. |
| 1:27.2 | All right. Okay. So you offer |
| 1:29.3 | a quiz that people can take to identify their primary origin wound. And so, which I took, |
| 1:34.7 | by the way, and I loved it. But first, I want you to explain what an origin wound is and why it's |
| 1:39.7 | important for us to be aware of what our wounds are. Totally. Yeah. So like you said, my work is all around |
| 1:46.8 | understanding the family systems that we grew up in. Of course, wounding and pain can come from |
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