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Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth Podcast

Inner Work 244: When being good becomes a problem

Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth Podcast

Josephine Hardman

Education, Spirituality, Religion & Spirituality, Self-improvement

4.9619 Ratings

🗓️ 10 May 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Are you a GOODIST?

Identified by mindbody pioneer Dr. John Sarno, goodism is a personality trait where highly conscientious people put pressure on themselves to be "good" at all times (and to be perceived as "good" and selfless by everyone).

Some other characteristics of goodism include:

  • putting others' needs and desires above your own, most or all of the time
  • getting your sense of self-value from being "needed" by others
  • finding it intolerable when someone else criticizes you, gets mad, or disagrees with you (and so trying to avoid this at all costs)
  • playing the role of peacemaker in others' disagreements 
  • going along with what others want, rather than making your voice and preferences clearly known
  • avoiding conflict by not speaking up when others disappoint you or overstep your boundaries

In this episode of INNER WORK, we'll explore this trait of goodism and how being a "goodist" can become a problem... because it leads you to suppress your authentic self and to give all of your energy and power away.

If this discussion has intrigued you, I highly recommend reading Dr. Sarno's books The Mindbody Prescription and The Divided Mind.

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Music & editing by G. Demers.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

This is Inner Work, a spiritual growth podcast, a sanctuary for healers, lightworkers, and spiritual

0:11.3

practitioners here to raise consciousness on this planet. You've come to the right place to heal yourself

0:19.0

and fully awaken your unique gifts,

0:22.4

so you can show up to serve others as powerfully and purposefully as possible.

0:29.1

I am your host, Josephine Hardman, a certified intuitive healer and Akashik Records Master Teacher.

0:36.6

I'm honored you're here and delighted to walk with you on your path for a little while.

0:42.2

To connect with me and explore ways of working together, please head over to josephinehartman.com.

0:54.1

Welcome to the podcast. I am so thrilled that you are here.

0:59.5

And I want to start this episode with a question. Are you a goodest?

1:07.3

In other words, do you have a tendency to put the needs and desires of others above your own?

1:14.9

Do you need others to like you?

1:17.8

Does it feel almost intolerable when someone criticizes you, disagrees with you,

1:24.8

is disappointed by something that you've done or said, or if someone gets

1:30.4

mad at you? Do you have a tendency to abandon or change your plans to accommodate others and

1:39.2

their schedules, their needs, even when it's really inconvenient and taxing for you.

1:48.2

Do you tend to over-schedule yourself to make sure that you're taking care of everyone else

1:54.3

and saying yes to every single demand, request, invitation, and so on? Do you tend to play the role of peacemaker when people

2:06.7

have disagreements with you or even with each other? Are you often the mediator in your family's

2:14.1

disagreements or conflicts, for example.

2:24.7

Do you tend to go along with what others want instead of speaking up and making your own preferences and needs clearly known?

2:29.5

If someone says or does something that you strongly disagree with, that maybe even crosses

2:36.8

your boundaries in some way, do you tend to just swallow that, not say anything, to avoid

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