Confident people don't rush. Confident people take their time and space. Hi, hello, welcome to Mary's

Cup of Tea, the self-love podcast for women. Though all self-lovers are welcome here. I'm Mary. I write and

speak about self-love and am best known for my book, the gift of self-love, and I also host

retreats for women.

And this is the podcast that will inspire you to love yourself.

Think about the last time that you were rushing to get out the door.

Maybe you were running late for work or to meet a friend trying to get to where you're going and get there on time. But is it just me? Or are those

also the exact times that you end up smudging your mascara, spilling your coffee, hitting all the

red lights? For some reason, the more I rush, the more slowed down I get by the randomest, silliest things,

and they only end up leaving me even more frustrated. And on top of that, I generally don't

arrive that much earlier than I would have had I not rushed. I don't know about you, but when I get

into my car and I turn on my GPS and Siri says that it's going to take me 22 minutes to get to

where I'm going, I make it my personal mission to make it in 18 minutes. I have a whole superiority

complex around beating the time the GPS

tells me that it's going to take to get somewhere. And I don't know what it is. And truthfully,

this isn't necessarily safe. But it's also not a healthy or productive way to live your life. I mean, we do this rushing in small ways

and also in big ways. Like when it comes to processing or lack of processing are emotions.

We tell ourselves, you need to get over it, move on. Why is it taking me so long? Why am I feeling like this?

Why am I so tired all the time? I should be this. I should be doing more of that.

And all of these stories that we tell ourselves where we limit the time that we have, even though you have time, it's just a matter of, are you willing to

spend that time on yourself, trusting that time is going to expand to accommodate for everything

that's important? Or are you going to rob yourself of your precious time for the

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