Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne. I'm really excited to have Tim Chalys with me on today's

episode. He is a Christian and a husband to Aileen and a father of three children aged 12 to 18. He worships and serves as a pastor at Grace Fellowship Church in Toronto, Ontario, where he primarily gives attention to mentoring and

discipleship. He is a book reviewer for World Magazine, co-founder of Cruciform Press, and has

written three books including the discipline of spiritual discernment. The next story, visual

theology, do more better, and the newest, a visual theology guide to the Bible.

He writes daily at www.challies.com, and that is C-H-A-L-L-E-S.

Welcome, Tim.

So I contacted Tim after I read one of his blog posts at chalise.com.

And it was entitled, Eight Sins You Commit whenever you look at porn.

And I was so impressed with this.

I just wanted him to come on the podcast to talk about how he came up with this article

and some of the concepts that he teaches in the article.

So one of the reasons why I was extremely impressed with the article is that it said that men who

use pornography are participating in sexual assault, which I couldn't agree with more.

Can you tell me why you came to that conclusion, Tim?

Sure. A little bit of background is many years ago now, I had been talking to young men and starting to realize that as they were looking forward to life, they were looking forward to meeting somebody and marrying and settling into life.

As I started talking to them and really hearing them, I realized that a lot of

them, one of the real desires they had in getting married was to find someone upon whom they could

act out all the porn they had seen over the years. And so, yes, they were looking for a wife,

but they were actually really, in a sense, looking for someone they could act out porn with.

And that just showed me how much today's

young men had been immersed in pornography. This was something new to me. You know, somebody

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