Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

We're going to talk about suffering today and I have a few opinions on what

suffering looks like and I'll go through them and as you're listening to this ask yourself if you resonate

ask yourself if you are in fact suffering and I know suffering can feel dramatic. Suffering I think, you know, it has a, it gets a bad rap, I understand it. It's like the drowning underwater, slippery well, I get it, but suffering I don't think is, I don't

think it's bad because I think it's temporary and also I think that suffering sometimes is required for us to get a taste of the other side, you know?

You know that saying that if you're always happy you're not going to know what to compare it to

meaning you got to taste the unhappy to know what happy feels like for you to appreciate happy and to be to be grateful

for that. Well here are some things I believe suffering can be and I also believe that we've all been here many of us may be here

now and if you are it's okay it's just means that this is the experience that you're going through and there is also something

different. All right, suffering can be forcing things that are not meant. This is the story of half my life. When you are

forcing things and just you know what is that saying jamming a cylinder into a square hole when you are trying to

force things and this is also a very by me life right doing life by me not through me not for me but by me right the

iron fist my way or the highway when you are doing this I believe that there is suffering.

Your attempt to tap out the universe,

I think that's suffering because you're never going to win.

Trying to change someone, This is also suffering. This is also

something I still struggle with today. Usually it's with our partners and it can also be subtle you know it can be and I think the

subtle is more dangerous because the obvious you spot or they spot and you're aware of that you correct it but the subtle trying to

change someone goes unnoticed and when things go unnoticed it can turn into a virus you know and so trying to change someone is a dead end it is

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