My kind of rule of thumb is like go for the joy.

Like I don't want the resistance to change.

How can I meet it most joyfully?

Welcome to the art of accomplishment, where we explore how deepening connection with ourselves and others

leads to creating the life we want with enjoyment and ease.

I'm Brett Kistler, here today with my co-host, Joe Hudson.

Today we're leaning into resistance, how it shows up in all its forms,

the path to developing a healthy relationship with the resistance,

and all the fun and foibles we can expect along the way.

In self-discovery practices,

there's this idea that the path to deeper freedom is to go through our resistance. This often sets us up with an adversarial relationship to our resistance, as if all it does is needlessly

hold us back. The other day, I read an essay by David White on the word denial. I highly recommend giving the entire essay a read.

We'll link to it in our show notes.

But his closing lines really caught my attention.

To live in denial is to be in very good company.

Denial is the crossroads between perception and readiness.

To deny denial is to invite powers into our lives we have not yet readied ourselves to meet.

So, Joe, David's treatment of denial rhymes with something you say a lot, which is, if you can't love the thing, love your resistance to the thing.

If denial is one form of resistance, seeing it in this light seems like a good pointer toward learning to love it.

So what exactly is resistance?

It's an interesting thing what David White is saying. I think it's incredibly profound and I think it needs to be said because

it's usually the relationship people don't have with denial, right? So it's typical that people

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