Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every day to help you with your

most important job being a dad. These are lessons inspired by ancient philosophy, by practical

wisdom, and insights from dads all over the world.

Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

If they don't get it from you, where will they?

We know that our kids want to feel good, feel safe, feel loved, feel that someone is proud of them,

feel that they are talented, feel that they are worth something.

We know that they'll want to have fun, take risks, mess up, be crazy, feel the pleasures of the world.

As the person who is in charge, as the person who wants

them to be successful in life, it may come to be that we are at odds with those feelings

fairly often because we see their potential. We're critical because we are worried about them.

We're strict because we know how hard and competitive the world is. We push and push them. Because we have so much

on our plate, we don't always say the nice thing. We don't state the obvious. The problem is if they

aren't feeling safe or loved or proud of them from us, where will they get it from? Because they

will go out and try to find it. If dad is blocked off because dad is

busy, daughter will go to find love in the wrong places. If dad because dad is a hard ass,

because dad regrets his own youth, pushes too hard, son might rebel or son might learn to value

the wrong things. It doesn't matter the gender. It doesn't matter the personality.

If dad doesn't give the kids what they need, they'll get it somewhere and it won't be from the right

place. It might be from drugs or a gang or bad influences or reckless behavior or from a false

belief that you can earn acceptance and appreciation. That's wrong.

They deserved those things at birth,

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