If It Is to Be, It's Up to Me | ReWire 1660

The Hardcore Closer Podcast

Ryan Stewman

Selling, Closingsales, Salestraining, Entrepreneurship, Business

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 11 April 2025

⏱️ 4 minutes

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Summary

I've taken a lot of courses on leadership.

Read a lot of books on it.

Been to tons of conferences.

I do not believe I am a leader, but I've been designated as one from the people I serve.

I don't know why some of these people follow me and turn to me for advice.

I wasn't a leader in school.

Wasn't a shot caller in the prisons or a gang leader.

What I do is just do what's best for me.

As a result, I see people coming to me to help them do the same for them.

If i have problems, I have to figure them out.

I'm not going to share them with others.

I keep it to myself and figure shit out.

If it is to be, it's up to me.

I learned this from a guy at the car wash where I worked. He was from the Brian Tracy organization.

That stuck with me.

The leader doesn't get bailed out.

They have to be good at figuring things out by themselves.

In order to be a the best leader I can be, I have to be a really good follower.

Once you master this, you'll have people following you, but it requires you to help them.

Do this and you'll never have to beg people to follow you.

About the ReWire Podcast

The ReWire Podcast with Ryan Stewman – Dive into powerful insights as Ryan Stewman, the HardCore Closer, breaks down mental barriers and shares actionable steps to rewire your thoughts. Each episode is a fast-paced journey designed to reshape your mindset, align your actions, and guide you toward becoming the best version of yourself. Join in for a daily dose of real talk that empowers you to embrace change and unlock your full potential.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the rewire podcast.
0:02.0	I'm your host, Ryan Stumann, and I'm here to rewire your mind for success.
0:07.0	You were put on this planet for success.
0:10.0	You were created to succeed, but the force of average is after you every single day, my brothers and sisters.
0:16.0	And this podcast is the one thing that's designed to help you fight the force of average and excel in
0:21.8	every area of your life. We're glad that you're here. I've taken a lot of horses on leadership,
0:27.6	been to a lot of seminars on leadership over the last 20 years and read a lot of books on it.
0:32.2	It's something that I struggle with because I never in my entire life have looked in the
0:37.0	mirror and been like, Stumannier a leader. I look in the mirror and I'm like, what the fuck are these people believing
0:42.7	in you for? And, you know, it keeps a lot of pressure on me because I'm like, I have to show up for
0:47.7	them. I don't know that I necessarily asked for this. I just found my way into it. In prison, I wasn't a gang leader. I wasn't even a gang member, right? On the streets, I wasn't leading a drug operation. I was a solo operator. I've been a solo person my whole life. I look at my 13 year old son Jackson. And yeah, he's got friends and he's got a girlfriend and stuff, but like he keeps to himself. I'm like,'s a he's a lot like me I look at all my
1:11.9	kids and they might have one friend each and they kind of keep to themselves and I say that because
1:16.9	as a leader we have to become self-reliant and we got to keep things to ourselves if I'm leading a group
1:25.0	of people let's call them apex and if I'm leading a group of people, let's call them Apex. And if I'm leading a group of people,
1:30.9	I have to be the example. It's not about you follow me. It's about I'm going to try to do the
1:36.6	best version of me. I'm going to tempt this every single day and hopefully they'll buy into it.
1:42.6	It's not a, hey, you have to follow me.
1:44.6	Hey, this is mandatory.
1:45.8	It's a, I'm going to do this.
1:47.7	And if you see the results and like them, then you should try to do this too.
1:52.1	It was never about, hey, follow me.
1:54.1	Instead, it's always been about if I just do the best for me.
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