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The RDL Podcast with Rabbi Daniel Lapin

If Familiarity Breeds Contempt, How Can Your Marriage Survive? - 6/16/18

The RDL Podcast with Rabbi Daniel Lapin

Blaze Podcast Network

Religion, Philosophy, Judaism, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture

4.8842 Ratings

🗓️ 16 June 2018

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

“This was the beginning of evil, for if no man is a hero to his valet, much less can he remain a god for long in the eyes of a curious woman.  Here, as in other matters, familiarity breeds contempt.”  I didn’t realize that when the great English adventure writer Rider Haggard wrote those words, he was quoting the German 18th century philosopher Hegel, of whom in general, I don’t think much but who did write these good words, “No man is a hero to his valet. This is not because the hero is not a hero, but because the valet is a valet.”  Anyway, a husband and wife see far more of one another than a valet sees of his boss so with all that familiarity, how can they avoid developing contempt for one another?  The answer goes far beyond bathroom privacy and sexual restraint and provides an indispensable guide to marital happiness and durability. But it isn’t easy.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

The Blaze Radio Network

0:02.5

On Demand

0:06.5

The more the world changes, the more we find comfort in the things that never change.

0:12.9

This is Rabbi Daniel Lapin on demand on the Blaze Radio Network.

0:18.8

Hello everybody, welcome to the Rabbi Daniel Laban Show,

0:22.2

and thank you all very much indeed

0:25.1

for being so effective in promoting and publicizing the show.

0:30.7

A whole lot of you are obviously doing that,

0:32.8

and both Susan and I appreciate that enormously.

0:36.6

Well, today's show is entitled,

0:39.0

if familiarity breeds contempt,

0:42.2

how can marriage survive?

0:45.3

And sure enough, it obviously is a real question,

0:49.4

but on one level,

0:50.5

I'm sure that many of you are identifying it

0:53.8

as a bit of a straw man type of question

0:57.3

if familiarity breeds contempt, but maybe it doesn't always breed contempt, in which case there's no

1:05.4

real question. I mean, after all, we all know that every expression or idiom or proverb that means one thing is always matched by another idiom or expression or proverb that means exactly the opposite.

1:23.9

For instance, the squeaking wheel gets the grease.

1:31.3

So you go up there to the top floor and make a fuss. But wait, silence is golden.

1:35.3

Or, you know, you really ought not to judge a book by its cover.

1:41.3

Right? But wait a second. Clothes make the man.

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