Identifying 5 Root Causes of Conflicts so You Can Finally Resolve Them: Episode 284
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 4 April 2023
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
By now you know that repairing after your conflicts with your partner is one of the most critical aspects for a marriage. It might even be the most critical. If you do not repair, you just create more problems later on and you drive an emotional wedge between you. Repair is not an easy thing to do for two reasons that you will hear in this episode.
One of these reasons is the whole purpose of this episode… you do not identify the real root cause of the conflict. Most people just try and move on, but this will only have the problem repeat. In this episode are 5 root causes of conflicts that you need to reflect on in your repair process so that you can actually address and change the actions that are needed in your relationship.
If you want to listen to the replay of the full webclass on this topic, just use this link here: Why Are We Arguing Again Webclass. Then if you are wanting to better use these root causes in your repair process, be sure you get the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide so you can stay on track all the way to resolve your conflicts.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:05.7 | advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team |
| 0:11.2 | no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman, and I'll be your only |
| 0:15.8 | host for today. I want to come in here with a short summary of identifying five root causes of conflicts |
| 0:24.4 | so you can finally resolve them. Now, I'm really connected to this message, hence why I'm wanting |
| 0:30.3 | to do this just by myself, and we, both Jocelyn and I, did a web class on this this past week. Now, if you want to go really deep into this, |
| 0:40.5 | I suggest you watch the replay of this hour web class. So you can find that in the show notes. |
| 0:46.8 | It's online couples workshops.com slash root cause. Now, in that web class, we said these five root causes could each be an hour themselves. |
| 0:58.0 | So you can see how deep this is actually getting. So today, though, I want to talk about at a high |
| 1:03.8 | level, these root causes. Now, why? If you've been listening to us or if you know about the |
| 1:09.8 | research in the marriage and relationship space |
| 1:12.8 | more so marriage it's that a healthy relationship is primarily about how they resolve conflicts |
| 1:21.7 | now there are many other things that come from that but at its basis you have to be doing that. Otherwise, you just build up |
| 1:30.1 | emotional triggers. You build up resentment. You create disconnect. Your small little conversations |
| 1:37.1 | are toned to the other partner just cause big disruption. So it all comes down to this. |
| 1:43.7 | And if you've been following us, you know we have a |
| 1:46.6 | process for repair. That's the 5R process to actually repair from your arguments. Now, if that's where |
| 1:54.4 | you're at and you want to go through that process, I really invite you to get the Making Up and |
| 2:00.3 | Moving Forward Guide, and that's at the |
| 2:02.6 | Couplesexperience.com slash guide. That will also be in the notes. Now, I'm saying all this at the |
| 2:08.5 | beginning because a part of the repair process, which is so necessary to a healthy |
| 2:15.1 | marriage, is the first R of Reflect.. Now we've talked to so many couples now and I know it sounds |
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