ICYMI - Coupled Up With The Internet
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🗓️ 22 July 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
The app-ification of dating has made meeting people even more difficult. But no one ever talks about what comes after: when you are in a relationship with someone, and have brand new digital etiquette to decipher. When do you hard launch? How much should you post each other? And is it really that bad if they’re still liking other people’s thirst traps? On today’s episode, host Kate Lindsay is joined by Slate senior editor Tony Ho Tran, whose long-term relationship took place mainly online before the pair could live in the same place. While there are still plenty of digital minefields out there, could the thing that ruined dating actually be responsible for making relationships…better?
This podcast is produced by Vic Whitley-Berry, Daisy Rosario, and Kate Lindsay, with production assistance from Kevin Bendis.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, I'm Kate Lindsay, and you're listening to I-C-Y-M-I, or in case you missed it, |
| 0:18.4 | Slate's podcast about internet culture. |
| 0:20.4 | And today on the show, we are welcoming back Slate Senior Editor Tony Ho-Tran. Welcome back, Tony. It is so good to be back here, Kate. I feel like I should get like a punch card for every time I show up. No, I know. By like the 10th time, I should get like a gift or something. This is true because we've had some real fan favorites on recently, and they should start getting some type of plaque or like how S&L does like the five timers club. |
| 0:41.0 | Yeah. This is true because we've had some real fan favorites on recently, and they should start getting some type of plaque or like how S&L does, like the Five Timers Club. |
| 0:41.0 | Yeah. |
| 0:41.7 | We can open a kind of speak easy in one of these studios that aren't used and go from there. |
| 0:46.9 | It would be amazing. |
| 0:47.6 | We are here today to talk about dating, but not dating apps, which are something we've talked about a lot on the show. |
| 0:54.9 | One of the things that we just kind of realized is we don't talk as much about what comes like after the dating app, |
| 1:02.4 | which is being in a relationship and the ways that social media and technology and like digital |
| 1:08.1 | etiquette can affect that just as much as it's changed, |
| 1:12.0 | you know, meeting someone in the first place. And so, Tony, I know you and I both have partners. |
| 1:16.6 | Before we talk about that, I think we should talk about what our pre-partnered single life |
| 1:23.9 | on dating apps was like. Like, I mean, I would go on just looking for men. I mean, |
| 1:31.5 | I haven't done this for so long that I already sound like a predator saying, I'm just looking |
| 1:34.2 | from men out in the mouth. I was pretty early to dating apps at the point that my first time |
| 1:41.5 | using Tinder, it was still kind of weird. |
| 1:47.2 | Like, we hadn't quite accepted it. But what about you? |
| 1:51.9 | Oh, yeah. I mean, like, I remember using Tinder, like, when it first came out when I was in college. |
| 1:58.7 | And that was back when you could just get, like, unlimited swipes. And it was even more of a Wild West than it is now. |
| 2:02.3 | It was crazy. And I ended up dating someone for 10 years, |
| 2:07.4 | and then I broke up with them. And this happened about two years ago now. And I remember, |
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