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Try and 11. Was that welcome to the program? Hi, Dr.

or I think you so much for taking my call. I'm a little bit nervous, so bear with me as it kind of works through that.

So my question my question for you is how can I best handle situations or circumstances in which my husband reacts in a way that I believe is not the best reaction or even necessarily an appropriate reaction so that I can continue to have a.

Okay, that's too big. Can you give me an example of what you mean so I can understand better sure absolutely so most recently over the weekend we had a situation where our dog was having some sort of episode.

I mean episode what does that mean in episode?

Sorry, so like a like a seizure or something where he was not.

He was having like a seizure or something sort of like medical medical thing. Is that is that something your dog's been experiencing for a while?

Not for a while it was something that had happened once before I would say probably within the last 12 months so not expected.

Okay, so the dog had another seizure and what did your husband do that you think was not appropriate?

So he was clearly stressed, my husband was clearly stressed so I came out of the house into the yard where he was in the dark.

What did your husband do that you think was not appropriate?

He screamed and yelled when I asked what was going on.

What did he scream?

He said when I asked what was going on she screamed. I don't know I'm not an f in the back.

Okay, he was scared and upset. God, you don't give much leeway. When my dog and I were attacked by some dogs one of them took her by the neck and they were like a dozen holes in her my prior poodle.

And I came in the house screaming at the top of my lungs in hysteria.

So I'm not sure I understand why you can't get that.

Can you give me a different example?

Sometimes he comes home from work, he's very stressed, he has to commute, his job is hard and he will be very short with me or...

Okay, what do you think would happen if he came in the house?

And you said honey sit down, here is hot tea or glass of beer whatever he drinks and you just took your thumbs and worked the back of his neck and said why don't you just relax for a few minutes?

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