Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Today's question of the day comes from Molly in West Virginia. She says, I believe my father-in-law has been tricked into a marriage by a younger woman. His wife passed away a year ago and the new wife took advantage of his loneliness. My husband doesn't seem to

see what I see. How can I let go and not be bothered by the fact that she's using him? I don't want to be

fake and pretend everything's great when I see a lot of issues. Okay, let me understand this, John.

My father-in-law has been tricked into a marriage by a younger woman who's taking advantage of him.

And the actual son is not seeing this. He's like, no, this seems totally fine.

Yeah. So there's a lot of issues here. Number one is the husband and wife aren't on the same page.

On top of this father-in-law may be getting scammed. I don't know. There's too much we don't know. Well, and there's also, is this like a, just his name just let my mind, but like an Anna Nicole

Smith situation where he's 90 and she's 25, or is it he is 70 and she's 55, right? So I don't know

what younger woman means here.

So she needs to address this with her husband.

I don't know that she needs to be involved as much.

Does the son need to talk to dad?

No, I mean, if dad is, I think what needs to happen here is Molly needs to call this new woman and take her to lunch and get to know her. Because right now,

Molly is creating stories in her mind and then her body's responding to those stories. She's acting upon those stories. She's getting enraged by those stories. And she doesn't even know if those

are true. And so I am going to sit down and have lunch and I'm going to make it a regular practice.

You're in my family. I'm going to get to know you now. And then, not when there's stories, but when I have data,

when I've got confirmation of, oh, this person's kind of wonderful or, oh, this person's gnarly, right?

Then we can begin to make alternative decisions on what we're going to do. And by the way,

I have had times over the last

quarter century when I've been with my wife

when she has said,

we need to go right now. And I'm like, no, we don't. We're fine.

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