Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from two to five PM Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Charlie welcome to the program.

Hi Charlie. What's happening? So I grew up with a very angry mother, very rageful at times abusive strict and even into my 30s now I'm adult and married to have a child. I still find her quite triggering things that she says she can be controlling.

She has some very regimen qualities and it's hard to be so kind is to take a moment to tell me about the redeeming qualities and number one number two considering what you said about her.

If you have children to do you expose them to this behavior.

She has calmed down a lot in her age.

I know she hasn't been like that with them with him.

She's nurturing she is thoughtful in her own way like what is convenient for her for example like always send us home a food or always thought of like you know my girls want I have two sisters like girls when you know this for their home.

When we go there you know she always cooks for us and she cooks for others she's very thoughtful with the community with people who are sick.

She showed us a lot of adventure in our childhood trips and traveled the world with her and my father. But it always felt like it was at the expense of you know something else like that was the only time like I felt like people so our family is normal because otherwise it was just so tense.

And there would always be a blowout on Sundays like coming up to the week.

I found school like such a solace and comfort and I sort of.

I was so deep into school and was a really good student and have you know have become successful in my own way and like I said I still find her true and I still find it upsetting that for example when my son orange she she flew out to see me for a couple hours in the hospital and left didn't come help me like most moms would.

And things like this you know critical controlling with money.

We can only have like you know 20 minute conversation 20 minute I mean that's like a stretch actually like five conversation before just escalate into her crib is something about me or my family or my son or how breathing him.

And she'll laugh at me for nothing my son when he's like just over to little things like that and and very co dependent with my father so.

It's just like after.

So why do you think the therapy you've been in hasn't helped.

Has it has it's not good it hasn't no it hasn't no it hasn't how did I know you had been in therapy because you use all the baffle words.

So I knew you were in therapy.

Why do you think none of it worked because it didn't.

And don't blame the therapist.

Why do you think it didn't work.

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