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Laura. Welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for keeping my call. Thank you. What can I annoy you with?

Oh man, I hope you can. And I have alienated my three best friends that we've been best friends with since started in middle school.

And I didn't realize I was the problem and I think I am the problem and I don't know how to fix it.

Well, when did we notice there was even a problem regardless of who was responsible when did this become apparent that there was a problem?

It became apparent during COVID when I when I came home and I had all this time on my hand and my girlfriend wanted to spend time with me.

And I would go and share time with her, but I found her personality really challenging for me.

She was a little more critical that I think I could handle and I took it all personal and I kept trying to talk to her.

Since middle school, we've known each other and suddenly you discovered she was critical. What?

I knew it. I've always known it. She even brought that up. We had hard times in high school. And I am like one of those people that I'm like, we've been friends forever.

I don't care. I want to be with you, even though it's difficult at times.

Fair enough.

Yeah, and the problem is I felt like I was being pretty open about what was attending me, but I think her side of it was she doesn't she doesn't talk and she shuts down.

But then we kind of involved the other girls and put them in the middle and then that made it really awkward.

And then when I felt I was losing everybody, I honest to goodness like I lost my mind and I was just like, I can't wait that I'm the bad guy in this.

And she's the one that's attacking me. And I really think I saw myself as a victim and I might have been justified at time, but it how I handled it that I can see.

I really damage my friendships. And I don't want to be that baby anymore of just like poor me.

And I don't know how to show them that I'm willing to be different and better. And I really want my one difficult girlfriend back.

I don't want to give up our 45 year friendship.

Then invite everybody to a Zoom meeting tonight at eight o'clock.

They the substance of this is I'm apologizing to everybody and I'd like to try to make things better. I hope you'll all give me a chance.

That's it. That's what you do. And then you eat humble pie.

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