There are so many powerful questions, so many pain points that I would like to be able

to at least address with you even if shortly.

So this series is going to be different.

It's you calling me with a very precise question with your pain point, me calling you back

and together we think out loud and we go from where should we begin to where can you start.

Just a note before we start, Astair talks through instances of abuse and domestic violence

with this next caller.

I, Astair, thank you so much for agreeing to answer my question, a bit of background

on myself, so I am a young lady in my mid-20s.

My mother was victim of kidnapping and torture at the hands of a dictatorship state and that's

basically affected our relationship in a number of ways.

So I've been diagnosed with complex PTSD because of a myriad of things that happened during

my childhood and afterwards and my question to you really is how do I learn to live with

the trauma and the heart of my childhood, especially when I have a mother who is very

difficult to deal with.

We're currently not speaking.

We go through a cycle of me forgiving her even though she hasn't apologized and a few

months down the line, go through the same cycle of not speaking for months on end then I

will decide to forgive her because of understanding her trauma but there's never enough knowledge

to take me to the hospital.

Hello, hello.

Hello, hi.

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