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Margaret, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. Thanks for having me on. I'm looking for a little advice, probably a lot of advice. I feel like I'm

sabotaging or screwing up my marriage. I'm married for 25 years. Two kids. Their dad is the man I'm married to.

And so having issues with controlling my husband, with things like,

so this has been going on probably from the get-go.

I would control him with sex.

I would control his behavior with just how money is spent,

jobs or things like that.

And we have talked about it numerous times about how it is, shows disrespect to him.

Those are things that I don't want to do.

And over the years, I have made some improvements with that but I feel like just in

general I feel like it's a thought process I have inside of my head of what to think about or how

what what what should I be thinking about ma'am the thought process in your head

says what to you that when he requests me to do something uh or makes a decision for us that there's a part of me that's resistant to it.

I, so like I said, I didn't, I didn't know, I don't want to hear what you said. Don't want to

hear what you said, because I heard it. So you're resisting and tell me the thought process that

goes into the resistance.

I feel that I'm, I feel independent. I feel, you know, I feel, I, I recognize that I resist, I guess, being told what to do.

Even though logically I know my husband is not telling me what to do,

I struggle with that I feel maybe he's controlling me,

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