I'm Tired of Being the Strong One: Second Puberty, Past Lessons and Finding Yourself w/ Tahmina Begum

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🗓️ 2 February 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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"It's about time we address the 'second puberty' nobody warns us about."We are opening Season 4 with the founder of Aram Newsletter, Tahmina Begum!Tahmina is a brilliant journalist, writer and editor - alongside her newsletter she has written many articles and one of them discussing the second puberty.She defines this as the necessary shedding of old skin. Not only are you now making choices for yourself but you are also redefining who you are. It’s like a spiritual awakening and a rebi...

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0:00.0	The oldest daughter or the daughter of an immigrant household or a daughter generally, even before she's born, there's a saying of like, you know, whatever you do as the eldest, the rest will follow.
0:16.9	That is a lot of pressure because for so long I've made decisions in a way where I feel like I had to make one decision and that decision had to carry me in life.
0:25.0	I make this one decision, then it's other decision, impact another decision and then it all impact my sibling.
0:30.2	Then it all impact everyone around me and I'm meant to be the good example.
0:33.4	And you know what?
0:34.6	Sometimes that is very paralyzing.
0:36.7	And one thing I would love for future generations
0:39.1	of daughters to know is that make decisions but also make mistakes. Everything that you do does not
0:44.2	have to be cemented into stone. We're always reminded that things are temporary. But the way that we
0:48.5	raise our daughters with so much judgment, we're raising them into believing that everything that
0:51.9	they do from the ages of 16 or 15, that is what's going to carry them.
0:55.3	And that is like a marker for them for the rest of their life.
0:58.2	And I always think there's a community that's meant to be about forgiveness and mercy, like we're not really showing it to one another.
1:03.4	And that's what makes me really sad. That's what I would want daughters to know, essentially.
1:18.7	It's about time.
1:22.5	We address the second puberty that nobody warns us about.
1:29.7	You're listening to Unsweetened and Unfiltered the Podcast, episode one of season four. Did I just say season four? Because I can't believe we have made it this far. Cheers to another season that will
1:35.4	inshalla be filled with more laughs, more tears, hopefully happy tears, of course, and so many more
1:41.2	empowering stories told by women, who like you and I have had their fair share
1:45.7	of personal life experiences that have shaped them into who they are today. Thank you to my day
1:50.4	ones, the listeners who have tuned in and supported this podcast ever since the first episode
1:55.2	aired back in 2019. And to those of you who are new here, thank you for being curious and wanting
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