Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from two to five p.m. Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Michelle. Welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. How are you? Good. What's happening? My question for you today is I got my grandson who's starting his freshman year in school. A cell phone over the summer.

And I asked the parents first if that would be acceptable as long as I put the parental controls on there.

I said it for age 10 so basically in there's a time let me get two hours on the phone a day of other stuff and an unlimited text and calling and it was basically for the parents and everyone to be on the same page because there was.

A lot of conflict around miscommunication she said he said ice mom said dad said that figured that will just alleviate it when there was the parenting time and so it worked.

But I put the boundaries of the cell phone is for communication purposes only on another device to detach from friends or family. It's just to make phone calls and texts really because the permissions that are on there are very strict.

So today's the first day of school and I'm in a class for three hours and my phone's going off and he's basically wants to listen to music during class because he says the teachers allow it at certain times of the day.

And I don't agree with that. I think that my boundary was the phone is supposed to be used for communication purposes not a way to detach from interacting with other people etc.

And your question for me is I don't think the parents don't agree with my stance on that and I don't know how to deal with it.

Then you take the phone away and they can get him a phone and give him whatever rules they want to give. Take the phone back.

You gave it under certain conditions and since I'm against kids getting these kind of phones at all I think at least what you did was acceptable even to me.

And if they're weak and don't think like you do with great depth about what this means in terms of disconnecting and disconnect.

Please take it back.

That's what I said. I said I think I overstep my boundaries. I should not have.

I asked for permission to do this. You guys agreed. I had rules with Adam and my expectations of what was going to happen and that doesn't seem to be working out.

The first day of school one would think that you'd be excited to meet your new schoolmates and your teachers and you're an hour to half in and your phone with me bothering me about listening to music.

And I just was like I can't I can't cosine this. I'm not going to do it. Good.

As soon as you hang up cancel it cancel it and then get the physical thing back.

But cancel it immediately. Thank you and which one is your kid his mom or his dad.

The father.

How come your father. I'm sorry. How come his father your son doesn't have the brains you have about this.

You know I have to question I ask myself all the time like you want to be a friend or do you want to be a father because the kid obviously is struggling and he needs to interact with other people and he needs.

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