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Samona. Welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. How are you? Hi. Good. What can I do for you?

My, my mom has been listening to you for a really long time and she, I had, I had got your program once before and then on a really long trip from from her house this past weekend.

I caught your, your Labor Day weekend broadcast and it was great. I decided to call.

So, my issue is I am going on 49 years old. I mean, I'm sorry, I'm 50. I will be going on 50 this October. I had been married.

I'm sorry. I was married once before and divorced since 2003, engaged twice.

And I just keep, I think I just keep picking the wrong guys. So I got you went so far as to get a ring. Did you give all the rings back or do you still have?

I did. No, I gave them back. I gave them back. So tell me how, tell me what about what happened in those two engagements?

The first engagement. I found that the person was it became extremely obsessive and jealous. And when as far as to be jealous of my daughter.

I was born from my first marriage and I, we weren't even married yet. I said, we need to go to therapy. So it went to therapy and the therapist said to me, my fiance at the time that there's these feel like she's giving you a reason to be jealous. No, so why are you jealous?

I was a bit obsessive and jealous. And again, when as far as to be jealous of my daughter spending time with me, so I just didn't think it was the right fit.

Well, thank God for that. A lot of women would have gone forward with it and messed up their kids tremendously.

And then called me and asked me to fix it.

Okay, December 1. Thank you. Thank God. Yeah. Okay. Go ahead.

Yes. And then I was engaged one more time to do someone that I should, again, should have never been engaged to and I tried to fix him like all women try to do.

So he suffered from depression and then it finally led to drinking and I had to exit myself and my daughter from that situation. So now I left in 2018 and it was it was heart wrenching and like, but yeah.

So why was it heart wrenching? Why was it heart wrenching?

Because I felt, you know, I loved him, but I love my daughter and myself more. So yeah.

Okay, good. Well, you made those wise choices.

It takes me a little while to see that I'm doing something wrong. I think that that I I've chosen someone that needed that I felt like needed to be fixed and mom need.

And but it's taking me it took me to it took me not when I think it took me too long to realize it, but, you know, we were living together, house together.

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