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Rosa, welcome to the program.

Oh, hello, Dr. Laura. First of all, thank you so much for making my call and I just want to tell you a sorry, a little nervous.

I just want to tell you thank you for raising me. You were so influential in my life, because I really didn't have much of parents because so thank you for everything that you've done.

I lost my dad about five months ago and he was very abusive.

When you say abusive, does that mean he was violent and hit people? Yeah, I was physically abusive and he used to put a lot of blame on me if something didn't work well in his life, like whether it be a job or anything. It was it was constantly my fault.

I was pretty well when you were a kid and he didn't get a job. How was it your fault? How did he explain that? Because he said that I didn't, you know, I didn't want to move somewhere else because I didn't want to move somewhere else. He didn't do well in the interview.

And so that's why he failed.

And so when you when can you slow down please. Oh, yes, yes.

Thank you. How old were you when you didn't want to move? What do you? I was I was 16 years old.

Okay, and you didn't want to move. So he blew the job. What about your mother? Did she want to move?

She was pretty much kind of like whatever he wanted.

I mean, your mother was actually not going to move because you didn't want to. That sounds so. She wanted to well, pretty much whatever my father wanted. She was going to.

Right. So why did you. Why would. Okay. All right. So he was not a nice person and your mother was very weak. Got it. Yes. Yes.

And so, you know, I was just dealing with this all my life and pretty much towards. I pretty much when I went off the college, I pretty much kind of.

I was like minimal type. Like I really didn't like call as much. I didn't come around as much. I was trying to really kind of distance myself because I just. I just couldn't do it anymore. It was very difficult for me. And then just on as I know, I have three younger sisters as well. But what was going on was that slowly I was distancing myself.

And so then he started kind of, you know, every once in a while when I would call because I wanted to talk to my mom here and there.

He would, you know, blame me for the family not going well or, you know, or anything along those lines.

And it's, you know, so I try to keep down the communication as minimal as possible.

Um, over the last several years, my daughter graduated high school and what they really cut everything off was, is that he went to my daughter's high school graduation.

I figured that would be okay.

And what happened was that he came, he flew in that day.

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