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Hey friend, it's Nicole, host of the Nicole Walters podcast.

Here's where we laugh, we cry, and we grant ourselves grace as we do life together. Let's get started. So friends I want to tell you about something that has changed my life and that I really think is going to create major shifts in yours.

Now, I'll start with a little bit of a story.

So if you've read nothing is missing, which is my New York Times best-selling memoir,

I talk a lot about my childhood and how I grew up with a father who was

narcissistic and you know through his own traumas of his own and honestly I will say some of it I think is kind of cultural and but that's a conversation

for another day.

But in African culture there's this concept called Tiger Parenting.

Tiger Parenting is the American Westernized term for it and you may be familiar with it but

Tiger parenting is basically you are raising adults not children. What that means

conceptually is that your sole job as a parent is to raise these children by treating them like tiny adults.

So I personally believe that it's little of column A, a little of column B, right?

You want to make sure your kids are being taught the school. a little

a little of column B, right? You want to make sure your kids are being taught the skills that they need to have in order to survive in the world, right?

We don't want to raise entitled little brats who are walking around, feel like everyone owes them something and that they aren't

responsible to anyone. But because you know evolution growing up in America if you

will or just better exposure to the value of therapy I really understand the importance of empathy

and emotional intelligence and that's a huge part of how I raise my kids as well is

making sure they understand that they have privilege and that they need to extend others grace and that they need to spend time

listening and hearing what other people are dealing with and so all of those

things being said I ain't grow up with any of that I think a lot of us can relate to that,

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