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My husband and I have been married 10 years. In that 10 years, we've never had shared bank accounts.

Essentially, when I was graduating college, my grandmother on her deathbed told me,

don't ever let a man control your money. You make it,

you control it. And I kind of took that to heart because she never left a bad marriage because

she didn't have money to do so. So we're 10 years in and now I'm, I feel completely hoodwinked because my husband has been using the money that he has like using cash.

I don't know where the like the cash is going, but he's been apparently funding his entire life on an Amex card that I just found out has an $18,000

balance at a 30% interest rate.

And when I confronted him about it, I told him he needed to cancel the card that we were

going to be eating rice and beans because this was absolutely unacceptable.

But he told me he was going to take care of it.

He was going to make a budget.

He didn't want me talking to him like that,

didn't want me talking to him like he was a child.

Yeah, I mean, you suddenly decided you wanted to interfere in his money.

Yeah.

After 10 years of telling him he wanted nothing to do with him.

No wonder he pissed. I mean I'm over here like well I know but you you lost all the right to

vote on his money when you said I'm not gonna vote on your money you you you

decided out of the gate I'm gonna I'm gonna row in my boat you row in yours and

now you're mad at the direction he's rowing yeah but my money's paying for our entire life

so well that's not a new thing no but so this is the other thing so he is disabled and he gets

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