This is the Ramsey Call of the Day, part of the Ramsey Network.

Joining me today is Ramsey Personality, Dr. Chandalone.

All right, today's question comes from Cindy in Virginia.

Cindy writes, as a naive widow, I fell in love with a man that took over my finances.

Over the past six years, I've lost my home, my car, my boat, and my bank account.

He's from Canada, and I'm his fourth victim.

I've been going to therapy, speaking with domestic violence groups, but I've lost the support of family and friends.

How do I get out of this mess?

Well, there's a couple things here.

Number one, the way you pose this question distances you from what happened.

And so as a naive widow, I fell in love with a man that took over my finances.

I would prefer you to reframe that and say, I fell in love with a man who robbed me.

You've got to take ownership of the situation you are in.

If you continue to cast yourself at sea with no boat, no life raft, no ability to swim, you're never going to be

able to wrap your head around walking on dry land and walking towards solutions here.

So I want you to take ownership.

You fell in love with a guy, you gave him all of your finances, and he robbed you.

And you've got to grieve the fact that you did that.

You participated in this, and then somebody took something big from you. And you've got to grieve the fact that you did that. You participated in this, and then somebody took something big from you.

And going to therapy, great, going to domestic violence.

Including your confidence.

Yeah.

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