I Hesitated Being Called, Mourned Being Released | An Interview with Kayla Shields
Leading Saints Podcast
Leading Saints
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🗓️ 8 May 2024
⏱️ 41 minutes
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Summary
Kayla Shields works as a Certified Personal trainer and Nutrition Coach. She earned an associate’s degree from LDS Business College and is now headed back to Ensign College to finish a Finance degree. Her church callings have included Primary teacher, Activity Days leader, Relief Society counselor, and Relief Society president. She recently accepted the best calling in the Church: Primary music leader. Despite Kurt and Kayla’s recommendation, we did not title this episode “When Salmonella Forms Friendships”. You’re welcome.

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3:00 Kurt introduces his conversation with Kayla, a recently-released Relief Society president.
4:15 Kayla tells her story of getting called to be the Relief Society president, fear, imposter syndrome, and calling counselors.
9:20 Doing ministering interviews. Take the time to check in with the sisters and see how they are doing and their relationship with God and then you can get to the ministering questions.
11:00 By sharing her story and the hard things that she has been through, Kayla has been able to deepen her connection with the women in Relief Society.
12:45 Ways that Kayla has shared her and her husband’s story of sexual addiction and been vulnerable in her ward. She has decided to remove the shame from it and has found that people have been much more open with her.
15:10 Principle 1 – Acceptance of all
17:10 How Kayla and her presidency did ministering interviews and scheduled them. They decided not to meet with the companionship but have one-on-one meetings.
19:20 Principle 2 – Lean into the awkward
22:10 Working with the bishopric and elders quorum presidency
23:30 Ward counsels, correlation meetings, and personal interviews with the bishop
24:40 Doing monthly activities
27:45 The first year of being president they didn’t call any teachers and had lots of different women teach.
30:00 The overwhelm of organizing the women into ministering routes. Just start and it will work out.
32:30 The shocking grief of being released as the Relief Society president. Kurt shares some advice on ways to still connect to people and gather.
38:00 Kayla shares her final thoughts and testimony of Christ.
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| 0:00.0 | How do you help someone tell their spouse that they have secretly been viewing pornography? |
| 0:09.8 | Wow, these are tough situations. |
| 0:12.6 | Thankfully, one of my favorite and most effective therapists, Jeff Struer, |
| 0:16.7 | put together a presentation about disclosing betrayal. |
| 0:20.4 | Jeff explains how disclosing betrayal can make recovery and repentance so much more difficult |
| 0:26.3 | if it isn't handled correctly. |
| 0:28.6 | This isn't a rip the bandaid off quickly type of situation. |
| 0:32.0 | With a better understanding of betrayal, church leaders can be a strong |
| 0:35.2 | resource in helping couples navigate the awful effects of pornography usage. You can watch Jeff's entire |
| 0:41.6 | presentation at no cost in the Liberating Saints virtual library. |
| 0:45.4 | Simply go to leading Saints.org, slash 14, and you can sign up for 14 days of free access to Jeff's presentation and the entire library. |
| 0:54.0 | It's one of my favorite interviews. Oh, So my name is Kurt Frankum and I am the founder and executive director of |
| 1:30.0 | Leading Saints and obviously the host of the Leading Saints Podcast. |
| 1:33.9 | Now I started Leading Saints back in 2010. |
| 1:37.5 | It was just a hobby blog and it grew from there by the time 2014 came around, we started the podcast and that's really |
| 1:44.8 | when it got some attraction and took off 2016 we became a 501c3 nonprofit |
| 1:50.9 | organization and we've been growing ever since and now I get the opportunity |
| 1:54.8 | of interviewing and talking with remarkable people all over the world. |
| 1:59.0 | Now this is a segment we do on the leading Saints podcast called How I Lead. |
| 2:03.6 | And we reach out to everyday leaders. |
| 2:05.5 | They're not experts, gurus, authors, PhDs, |
| 2:08.6 | they're just everyday leaders who've been asked to serve |
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