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Locked In with Ian Bick

I Had a Prison Girlfriend - Here’s What Happened | Tonya Higdon

Locked In with Ian Bick

Ian Bick

Society & Culture

4.8743 Ratings

🗓️ 8 December 2025

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

Tonya Higdon grew up in a good family, but childhood trauma pushed her into years of addiction involving nearly every drug you can imagine. She became a young mother while struggling to stay clean, bounced in and out of trouble, and eventually went on the run after multiple arrests for driving without a license. When she was finally caught, Tonya was sentenced to three years in the Florida state prison system—where she formed a long-term relationship with another woman that lasted her entire sentence. In this episode of Locked In with Ian Bick, Tonya shares her full story: her upbringing, addiction, life on the run, surviving prison, the realities of having a prison girlfriend, and how she worked to rebuild her life afterward. This conversation offers an honest look at trauma, recovery, and resilience for anyone interested in real-life stories, addiction journeys, and the truth about life behind bars. #PrisonStory #PrisonLife #LockedInWithIanBick #InmateStories #TrueCrimePodcast #PrisonRelationships #RedemptionStory #prisonexperience Thank you to AURA FRAMES & DAWS for sponsoring this episode: Aura Frames: Exclusive $35 off Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/LOCKEDIN. Promo Code LOCKEDIN DAWS: Go to http://www.daws.org/ to donate, adopt or send items from their wishlist. Connect with Tonya Higdon: TikTok: stankself_ Instagram: stankself4201 Hosted, Executive Produced & Edited By Ian Bick: https://www.instagram.com/ian_bick/?hl=en https://ianbick.com/ Shop Locked In Merch: http://www.ianbick.com/shop Timestamps: 00:00 Intro: Her Story Before Prison & What Led Here 05:00 Childhood, Family Dynamics & Early Struggles 10:00 Trauma, Addiction Begins & Life Starts Unraveling 16:00 Losing Custody, Spiraling & Desperate Decisions 22:00 Life on the Run, Arrest & Reality Sets In 27:00 Sentencing Day: Walking Into Prison for the First Time 33:00 Prison Relationships, Survival & Finding Her Place Inside 39:00 Daily Life: Hustles, Routines & What Prison Food Is Really Like 45:00 Addiction Behind Bars & Hard Lessons Learned 50:00 Getting Out: Reentry, Rebuilding & Starting Over 56:00 Staying Sober, Finding Purpose & Her Social Media Journey 01:01:00 Family Healing, Forgiveness & Moving Forward 01:04:00 Her Advice: What She Learned & Final Reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

I was in shackles.

0:01.7

I walked in and I tell the cops, I'm like, hey, don't put me in there with her.

0:06.4

She had called me one day and told me she was sleeping with the guy I'd been with for nine years.

0:10.2

What do you think are the most important rules for surviving in a woman's prison?

0:14.2

Go get a girlfriend so she can protect you.

0:16.2

Tanya Higden never imagined trauma from her childhood would lead to addiction, prison time, and a relationship

0:21.8

behind bars. But that's exactly what happened. Tanya, welcome to locked in. Thanks so much for

0:29.6

come on the show today. Yes, thank you for inviting us. Yeah, this is your first ever podcast,

0:33.4

right? Yes. And you and Angela came together, and I'm interviewing her after you. Yes. From Florida? Yes. That's exciting. Yes. I left the warm weather to come to the cold. Yes. I'm totally a Florida girl and love my flip flops. Well, no flip flops out today. You can wear those today. And you guys are spent a couple days in the city? Yes. That's great. After we leave here. That's great. And thanks for supporting us on Facebook. We've been Facebook friends for a while now. You've got to tell everyone about that shirt you just posted. Oh. That was hilarious. Yes. So I got a shirt from Spencer's. It says, tell your dad. I said hi. And I posted it with just a little funny saying, and it's got like 514,000 views right now.

1:17.5

Yeah, I saw it the other day.

1:18.7

It was hilarious.

1:19.6

I posted another one this morning that's got a lot, too.

1:21.9

Do you have inquiries or like people slide?

1:24.0

I don't really date.

1:25.6

Like, I've been dating the same guy for like a year, and I just never get out. I don't really date. Like I've been dating the same guy for like a year.

2:02.5

And I just never get out. I don't go out much. So, you know, I get a lot of messages, but I'd never answer them. You know, unless they, most of the time they live far away. There's nothing wrong with being a homebody. Yes. I'm a big home body now. We've been cooking at home a lot and just, you know, taking it easy, not going out as much and stuff. And it's nice. Well, it's easy when you got a girlfriend. That is true. But Matt doesn't have a girlfriend. He's, you know, we're like the three amigos. Yeah. Because we all live together. It's really fun, you know, like you're doing life with your best friends and stuff. How long have you known him?

2:06.6

I've known Matt, so that like the the plot behind Maddie Ice is that when I own the club years ago, he got kicked out of it one night and I had

2:11.6

to let him back in twice. He got kicked out twice at the same night. So I got him back in

2:16.2

and we've been friends ever since I was in like

2:18.4

2014 and then I called him randomly when I was in prison and then we lived together during

2:25.3

COVID for like a year. And then we lived together now since last year. But he really like stepped up to

2:31.9

the plate when I went away from Mr. Beast to run all my social media.

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