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How are you?

Hi good. What's up?

Okay, so a little backstory we have a 22 year old daughter who lives back east and is the oldest of five children.

We had five children was in five and a half years. The youngest are twin boys who are artistic and didn't get as much attention as she wanted when she was younger.

Now that she's 22 she lives out of the state. She had a boyfriend who technology or fiance and they were dating for six months.

The family adores her. However, she has a lot of anxiety and a lot of other things that were unsure of what she has and the boy himself has a lot of cognitive and motor function issues going on.

And we're totally against the engagement and we've done it since day one. We had to unfortunately we felt we were forced into accept.

We don't know the boy very well, but it's extremely timid and seems very much like a mom or Scott Scott.

Okay, I'm going to be blunt. I don't need to hear the rest of the story you and mommy get an airplane go out there sit with his parents him and her.

If it takes a whole weekend, you have to talk honestly openly and bluntly by the limitations of each of them, the practicalities involved and that you will only even mildly consider this a reasonable thing to do.

When they both have serious limitations and they don't know each other. That's ridiculous.

If they went into nine months, nine, you did face to face with them and the parents in the room.

Yes. So we did the face face. Let me ask you again. Let me ask you again to make sure we're talking about the same thing.

For several days, you sat with his parents, the two of you and the two of them and discussed all these things, these uncomfortable cognitive problems, anxiety problems.

All of this was laid on the table, leaving out the six months.

We've had meetings with them. We actually sat down for about four hours and discussed every little detail.

Again, in the Orthodox Jewish community, they don't like to be engaged for a certain period of time. They want to make it as quick as possible, which is fine with us to explain.

I understand that, but I got it and I applaud you. You're one and a million for having done what you did in person. Now, your question is.

Okay. So they basically have discarded us. My daughter's blocked us and the family has already started with my daughter to basically be already the wedding plans.

They've already picked the hall, the date, the times, they've done everything. My wife and I are questioning is, do we go out there knowing or the concern that we have that we don't think they're right for each other?

Okay, stop making this the longest term. You know, I got all the things you're making the question too long. I'm getting impatient.

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