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"I don't know who I am anymore" w/ Rachel and Erin Alder

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Religion & Spirituality

4.8566 Ratings

🗓️ 5 May 2021

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

Rachel and Erin Alder are a married couple from Seattle. Shortly after they met they became entangled in a situation within AA where their vulnerabilities were being used to control their behavior by a controlling sponsor. In Rachel's case, the vulnerability that was exploited was undiagnosed mental illness, specifically Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. While Erin’s biggest vulnerability became whether the marriage was dependent on continued work with this manipulative group leader. Eventually, Rachel and Erin were able to break free from the exploitation of the invasive sponsor and her high-demand group. They share with Rachel the details of how they were pulled into this controlling situation and describe the fears that kept them there for 7 years. In our third and final episode with Rachel and Erin, they conclude the story of their experiences in a high control AA group. They discuss the difficulties of leaving the group and the after-effects they felt once they finally left it behind. Before You Go: Rachel emphasizes the importance of taking breaks from high control groups. She explains how it gives your mind a chance to reset and gain a new perspective. Thanks to our newest Patrons: Elizabeth Kirkpatrick, Sherry Agee, Gina Claborn and, Connie Scum!! To help support the show monthly and sign up for cool Indoctrination stickers and tote bags, please visit: www.patreon.com/indoctrination Want to support the IndoctriNation show with a one-time donation? Use this link! http://www.paypal.me/indoctriNATION You can always help the show for free by leaving us a review on Apple/iTunes, it really helps the visibility of the show! To read more of Rachel's thoughts on AA check out this article in Filter Magazine: https://filtermag.org/deprogramming-from-aa-when-a-fellowship-resembles-a-cult/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0

Welcome to indoctrination, a weekly conversation series about protecting yourself from systems of control.

0:11.1

I'm your host, Rachel Bernstein.

0:13.6

Hi, everybody. Today we have part three of my conversation with Erin and Rachel Alder. For those who have been listening and who have

0:23.9

gotten very involved in their story and really care, I'm sure that you'll be happy to know.

0:30.1

There is a third episode, but sad to know that it's the last one. And they are, of course,

0:36.5

invited back to share more of their story if there's more

0:39.3

that they want to share. I want to say, too, before I introduce them that this series of episodes

0:46.8

has touched a lot of people. Not only have I been contacted by other people who have been in this

0:53.4

very same offshoot that Rachel and

0:57.0

Aaron were involved in, but also people who have been harmed by 12-step experiences and by

1:04.6

AA, some of whom who really have moved away from 12-step and AA, others who are still involved, but realized

1:13.8

that there are inherent dangers or the potential for danger without enough safeguards,

1:21.3

which is something that Rachel and Aaron and I are going to talk about towards the end of

1:25.5

this episode. I truly want people to be

1:30.6

able to have an experience that is more connected to updated senses of scientific discovery

1:41.0

about addiction and also that not everyone needs to call themselves an addict in

1:48.8

order to be able to get help and not everyone needs to believe in God in order to get help.

1:54.3

It needs to be done in a more tailor-made way like it's done with groups like smart recovery and others like it. But really,

2:04.7

unfortunately, when this system was put in place, there were not safeguards put in place. So

2:12.1

this is not at all meant to have you move away from your 12-step group or your A-A group if that is

2:20.5

what's helping you and nothing bad has been happening and you're not in danger and you're

2:25.7

surrounded with people who really do care and also are sensitive to and respectful of your boundaries. But I do think it is problematic when for some people

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