I Can’t Believe How Many Marriages Look Like This
Vlad Savchuk Podcast
Vladimir Savchuk
4.9 • 665 Ratings
🗓️ 24 February 2026
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
Chapters:
0:00 - Intro
2:52 - What is a sexless marriage and how common is it in today's world?
4:34 - Could you give us an overview of the eight main reasons why couples stop having sex?
13:20 - How do you help couples heal from intimacy anorexia?
15:17 - How does it happen when someone is sexually active in other ways but avoids sex with their spouse?
18:57 - Could you briefly explain how the six types of sex addicts differ and how treatment might vary for each?
21:48 - Could certain sex addictions be a result of spiritual strongholds?
23:42 - Is watching p*rnography considered cheating?
27:40 - From your clinical experience, what does masturbation do to the brain neurologically and emotionally?
40:19 - How can couples find out their own sex language and begin to communicate it effectively to their spouse?
45:06 - What kind of sex is “okay” within marriage from both a relational and spiritual perspective?
50:00 - What role does forgiveness, openness, and vulnerability play in restoring sexual and emotional connection?
56:43 - For couples currently struggling in a sexless marriage, what is the first practical step you would recommend they take today?
59:24 - Learn more about Dr. Doug
1:00:18 - Outro
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Vlad Subtchuk podcast. |
| 0:09.0 | Our mission at Vladimir Subject Ministries is to reach the world globally and disciple them digitally. |
| 0:18.0 | Let's dive into this episode. Sexual addiction is also one of the top causes of |
| 0:26.7 | this sexless marriage. When the neuroscience field developed, and we understand that when we have |
| 0:32.7 | an orgasm, we have the highest level of endogenous opiates, which hits the prefrontal cortex of your |
| 0:37.2 | brain, |
| 0:42.5 | and boom, okay? And, but here's what happens. Whatever you're looking at, at that moment, |
| 0:47.1 | you literally glue too hunger for and crave and want to, again. Even 20-year-olds are having hard times maintaining their sexual stamina inside of a relationship because they're attached |
| 0:52.5 | to the other world. So they close their eyes and they go to a fantasy world to be able to be sexual with a real person. |
| 0:57.0 | Is watching pornography considered cheating? |
| 1:00.0 | Lust is sin. |
| 1:02.0 | Okay? And when you are looking at pornography, when you are with your spouse, you are no longer with your spouse, |
| 1:07.0 | you disconnected and you disassociated and spiritually and emotionally, you went to the object world. |
| 1:12.1 | If you're looking at another man or woman, especially during that holy moment, you are gluing to evil. |
| 1:18.2 | So there's no place for pornography in a Christian marriage. |
| 1:20.6 | If you think that pleases the Holy Father, you're insane. |
| 1:24.0 | Today we have the honor of speaking with Dr. Doug Wise, a licensed psychologist and author, |
| 1:28.3 | speaker who has dedicated over 30 years of his life in helping individuals and couples to heal from intimacy issues, |
| 1:35.3 | sexual addiction, and relational disconnection. Dr. Wise is the founder of the Heart to Heart Counseling Center, |
| 1:41.3 | where he has worked extensively with thousands of couples |
| 1:44.6 | dealing with challenges such as sexless marriages, intimacy andorexia, and addiction recovery. |
| 1:50.3 | In today's conversation with Dr. Wise, we're going to actually unpack roots and realities |
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