I Am Not a Buffet: Reclaiming Rest & Sovereignty ft. Resmaa Menakem - Part 3
Black Girl Burnout
Kelley Bonner
4.7 • 764 Ratings
🗓️ 31 March 2025
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
In this closing episode of the series, Kelley concludes her conversation with Resmaa—the first male guest on the podcast—for a profound discussion on healing, embodiment, and the power of taking the time to “Be”. Together, they explore the deep-rooted impact of generational trauma, the necessity of somatic healing, and why true transformation happens in the body, not just the mind.
💡 Today You’ll Learn:
- Why healing must be embodied, not just intellectualized
- The role of community in breaking cycles of trauma
- How discomfort signals growth and expansion
✨ Episode Highlights:
01:15 Welcoming Resmaa and the Importance of Embodiment
05:40 The Weight of Generational Trauma and Its Impact
10:25 Discomfort as a Pathway to Growth
14:10 Healing Through Collective Support
18:30 Closing Reflections and What Comes Next
This final conversation is an invitation to embrace healing on a deeper level and to step fully into the work of transformation. Tune in for a thought-provoking and moving conclusion to this series with Resmaa.
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BGB Community Minute l Aline Lopes
ATTN: BGB Community In Dorchester (Boston Area) Massachusetts, we are happy to highlight an amazing upcoming play in your area. We need your help to support this event.
Note From Aline Lopes:
My name is Aline and I am a theatre company owner from Boston. Our productions are focused on stereotypes and taboos surrounding mental health that exist in black and brown communities.
About The Play:
The play's name is "The Many Faces Of The Strong Black Woman: The Dark Days", and we will be performing at the Strand Theater in Dorchester, MA April 4th and 5th, 2025.
The play is a part of a series of plays that displays different stories of black women maneuvering through the stressors of life all while trying to live up to the ideals held by the idea of "the strong black woman". The plays are meant to highlight the interconnectivity that exists between our biology and our race. The play displays some of the ways these factors impact us as black women living in the US. This particular play showcases what happens when all the members of a sisterhood are simultaneously struggling to manage their individual mental health status. The play focuses on the ways we interact with our inner circle and the world beyond when our mental health is suffering.
This production displays some of the dark ways we impact ourselves and those close to us when our mental health is deteriorating. The story is told through dialogue, dancing, singing and rapping. The production collaborates with local artists and works hard to use as much original local music as possible.
Where:
Strand Theater
543 Columbia Rd
Dorchester,, MA 02125
When:
Friday April 4, 2025
Saturday April 5, 2025
Attire:
Evening / Cocktail Attire
Time:
The play begins at 7pm - 8:30 (20 minute intermission). Afterwards there is a meet and greet with the cast. Coffee and desserts are served during this time.
Art:
We will also be displaying paintings and other visual arts pieces, from college and high school students in the gallery.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here. |
| 0:13.0 | And today we are finishing out our last piece of our conversation with Resma Mennikim. |
| 0:17.9 | What a fantastic interview this was. |
| 0:24.5 | We close out the conversation, talking about joy, and talking about how to make sure there is love in our community between each other, how to truly |
| 0:31.7 | rest in relationships. Let's dive into the episode. |
| 0:42.1 | One last thing before we jump into the episode. |
| 0:47.8 | We had some internet connectivity issues specifically on my end during the interview. |
| 0:57.4 | And as a result, despite our best efforts as a team to remedy this, the audio is not up to the normal BGB standards. |
| 1:04.2 | I'm going to ask for your graciousness because the information is just frankly too good to let go of. |
| 1:07.6 | But just know it's not up to our typical sound quality. |
| 1:09.4 | We did our best, y'all. |
| 1:11.9 | Okay, let's jump into the episode. |
| 1:24.4 | As you mentioned before, we have got to put in the reps, but so often we get so enamored with giving black people, black couples, things to do without helping |
| 1:28.7 | them with understanding how to be or what to do. How can they begin to condition being in a different |
| 1:36.9 | way as opposed to an urgent doing? How can they learn how to be? And that's the full circle back to where we started about black women. |
| 1:47.8 | It doesn't matter what's going on everywhere. |
| 1:49.9 | What's happening within ourselves is where it starts. |
| 1:53.2 | You said something earlier. |
| 1:54.5 | You said you got this black woman, got everything going on, got the bins, got the nails |
| 1:59.8 | and stuff like that. |
| 2:00.5 | And then you look |
| 2:01.0 | over at this dude bed and you're like how to hell did that happen and what i want to say is is that |
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