You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships. I'm your host

relationship coach Stephanie Rigg and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode we are

talking all about how to work through a trigger. So there was an episode that I did

two and a half years ago at the very start of this podcast. It was one of the

first few episodes and it was called Five Steps to Working Through a Trigger. And it was a really,

you know, I got a lot of positive feedback at the time and so I've always had in my head like I've

already done an episode on on working through a trigger but then I sort of

zoomed out and realized that that was two and a half years ago and that the vast

majority of you have joined my community since then and so it's probably a topic

worth revisiting because triggers really are a fact of being an imperfect

messy human in imperfect messy relationships.

They affect our romantic relationships, our familial relationships,

our friendships, our working relationships.

They can really pop up all over the place and I think that while there's probably a

correlation between how much unprocessed wounding and baggage so to speak we're

carrying around I think that the more of that you have under your belt

the more likely you are to be very sensitive and reactive, easily triggered.

Even I think when you've done a lot of work,

you can find yourself in situations that activate something within you.

Maybe someone says something in a particular tone or doesn't say something

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