How to Win People Over in 30 Seconds with Lori Harder
The Chris Harder Show
Chris Harder
4.9 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 20 August 2025
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
Too many people go into events or dinners trying to make the ask right away, and that's the fastest way to turn people off. In this episode, Lori and I break down the exact questions we use to start meaningful conversations, how to position yourself as the connector everyone remembers, and the #1 networking rule I live by. We also share how to craft a confident 30 second answer about what you do (instead of a three minute bio that makes people tune out). Become a master networker and start building the kind of connections that last.
HIGHLIGHTS
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My #1 networking rule.
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The four conversation starters Lori uses that always work.
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How to craft a 30 second answer to "What do you do?".
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Why being the connector makes you unforgettable.
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How to spot high quality contacts (and politely redirect others).
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One thing that can save you years of trial and error in business.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you're going to an event, here's how I play the long game with these things. |
| 0:02.5 | My goal is never to make the ask. My goal is to start the relationship. That's it. I'll make the ask after I start the relationship when we're having coffee or a follow-up Zoom or a phone call or something like that. Oh my God, that's such a good rule. I've just never heard it put that way. Like, I've done. I never go with the goal to make and ask. |
| 0:02.7 | It's to start the relationship. |
| 0:26.2 | Welcome everybody to the Chris Harder Show, where we are making you unapologetic about your pursuit of success, knowing that when good people like you make good money, they can then do great things. |
| 0:36.4 | My name is Chris Harder and several times |
| 0:38.0 | per week. I will bring you epic guests, solo episodes, and every single tool, trick and skill set |
| 0:43.0 | you need to grow your business, grow your money mindset, and to grow your wealth to levels that you |
| 0:47.8 | have never reached before. I've ended up in a unique place in life where I've got the experience, |
| 0:52.4 | the connections, and all of the secrets that it takes to be successful. And I'm lifting the curtain to reveal it all to you in an |
| 0:59.6 | effort to help put you in a position of abundance so great that you can then be as generous as |
| 1:05.1 | possible. So let's lock arms and let's get started. And we're back with another episode of He Said She Said. |
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| 1:38.4 | VIP weekend in mid-October is we interview you on our show. And it drops on my platform and it drops on your |
| 1:46.5 | platform rights of both shows mega exposure and you get to talk about your history you get to |
| 1:52.1 | talk about what you do what you're passionate about what your business is it's just really |
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