How to Use Your Hands: Fingering & Handjobs

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 March 2025

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master. How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises. The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try Nutrafol Today! Head to Nutrafol.com and use code "SWE" at checkout for $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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0:00.0	The hand job is a lost art and I don't know why we ever stop giving hand jobs.
0:08.0	Well, actually, I should say because the blowjob has such great PR, everything's about the blow job,
0:14.1	the blow job.
0:14.6	But I'm telling you, the hand job doesn't have to be something that you leave in junior high school.
0:18.6	The hand job can be just as hot.
0:23.3	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your
0:29.2	pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. All right, today we're highlighting a humble but
0:36.5	really hot sex act, the art of fingering,
0:40.4	or as I like to call it, handplay.
0:43.4	And when I say handplay, we are talking about penises and vulvas here.
0:47.9	So many people, though, think of it as a stopover on the way to penetrative sex.
0:53.0	But for many vulva owners, they can actually
0:55.2	orgasm more easily from a handplay than penetration. And for penis owners, it can feel incredibly
1:00.9	hot too. So let's get into it. Please rate and review sex with Emily wherever you listen to the
1:06.4	podcast. It just helps get the podcast out to more people like you. You can find us on all social media.
1:11.6	It is at Sex with Emily. And don't forget to check out my new articles, vaginal health solutions you didn't know existed.
1:18.1	And how to give an erotic massage on our website, sex with Emily.com. All right, everyone, enjoy this episode.
1:30.2	Here's a shocking truth about your health.
1:32.1	Whether you want to lose weight, improve your energy, or just beat that uncomfortable
1:35.8	post-meal bloat, nothing works if your gut isn't healthy first.
1:40.0	This is why I love Just Thrive and I take it every single day.
1:44.4	See, most probiotics die in your harsh stomach acid before they do much good.
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