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All right, everybody, this week we are talking about breakups and why breakups can actually be a positive in life.

And if you're watching this on YouTube, it actually looks like both Gary and I are going through a breakup because we're both wearing hoodie sweatshirts and we didn't Gary I don't know did you do we plan this what do you think you didn't it's like I said to you right before you came on like you know I was worried I was going to be a little too informal and I saw you show up and like look at that we're on the we're just on the same page I think it's like the time change. It's this time of year.

It's just, it's dark. I don't know. It's just like at the midnight. It does. It does. And there's only about like being a teenager with just like walking down the streets when it's like this time of year. You just put the actual hoodie on. And I don't know. I just, I love that feeling, man. That's my style all around.

This is my go-to look and there is something about talking about breakup where you just kind of feel like you got to you got to dress down a little bit like i'm gonna like live in the darkness of my emotions about breakup and you know just really get into it um you know i don't have a pint of Ben and Jerry sitting here or anything like that,

but, you know, that could be arranged as well.

All right, lesson number one is if you're going through a breakup where you have experienced that, I think one of the worst things you can do, maybe it's just because I'm lactose intolerant

is how to pine and juries.

It does not help your situation in the least certainly doesn't help mine

i don't know does it help yours when you've gone through break i i i'm officially grossed out

yeah yeah exactly like a big thing of fish food i'm like going back 10 years when i would just like

get jess would never let this go down but like i just would get a big thing of fish food and just be like, oh, my belly. Why to do that?

That was your go-to flavor, huh? Fish food? Oh, yeah. I never liked it, but the one that always cracked me up was chubby hubby. Hmm. It's just the name. You just like the name? I mean, it's like a classic you are what you eat kind of phenomenon or it's like, if you're not, you're going to be. Totally. It goes against like all marketing rules. Like, why would anyone want to buy chubby hubby? But they, I guess they do. I don't know. You'd think like it would remind you of how overweight you're getting when you're eating this crap. Yeah. But you know, it is funny how many people, you know, I talk to people about breakup all the time and the number of people that like immediately go to the breakup, I'm getting a pint of ice cream, or whatever it happens to be, I'm going to go sit and watch some junk TV, eat some junk food, and just kind of wallow it in my emotions. And so,

you know, I think today we're going to talk about some positive reactions to break up and some ways to help do with it that hopefully don't involve hubbies or chubbies or any of that kind of

stuff. Yeah. I hope so because I find especially when people are going through breakups,

and it doesn't have to be necessarily like a long-term relationship, although this is going to be very applicable.

I even work with a lot of clients who have gone out on two or three dates with a guy and it doesn't work out and they go through that level of depression and trying to talk to talk to someone logically to not feel that way that they're going to be okay

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