How to Trust Life Even When It Breaks Your Heart | Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

Eric Zimmer, The One You Feed

Religion & Spirituality, Self-improvement, Education, Buddhism, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.5 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 12 June 2026

⏱️ 63 minutes

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In this episode, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer explores how to trust life even when it breaks your heart. She talks about grief, healing, and trust following the loss of her son and father. Rosemerry shares how her daily poetry practice and spiritual teachings helped her navigate profound loss, embracing both sorrow and joy. She discusses her book All the Honey, the power of acceptance, and the mantra “adjust.” Rosemerry also discusses how openness, love, and small daily practices can support us through life’s darkest moments. Have you ever ended the day feeling like your choices didn’t quite match the person you wanted to be? Maybe you slipped into autopilot, or self-doubt made it harder to stick to your goals. If so, The Six Saboteurs of Self-Control can help you recognize the hidden patterns that quietly derail your progress and offers simple, effective strategies to move past them. If you’re ready to take back control and make meaningful, lasting change, download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook. Key Takeaways: Exploration of grief and its complexities following profound loss. The healing process and the importance of trust in navigating emotional pain. The role of poetry in expressing and processing human emotions. Discussion of the parable of the two wolves and its relevance to personal struggles. The interplay of joy and sorrow in life and art, as reflected in Rosemarie’s poetry. The significance of acceptance and openness in facing life’s challenges. Personal stories illustrating moments of beauty amid grief. The concept of emotional triggers and their role in fostering mindfulness. The importance of asking reflective questions to guide daily actions and decisions. Strategies for integrating spiritual practices into everyday life to support emotional well-being. For full show notes:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, check out these other episodes: ⁠How to Embrace Life’s Paradoxes with Rosemerry Wahtola-Trommer⁠ ⁠How to Embrace the Sacredness of Everyday Life with Mirabai Starr⁠ By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Brodo Broth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Brodo.com/TOYF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠ ⁠Alma⁠ has a directory of 20,000 therapists with different specialities, life experiences, and identities, and 99% of them take insurance. Visit ⁠helloalma.com⁠ to learn more! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠: Named #1 by Wirecutter, you can save on the gifts moms love by visiting AuraFrames.com. For a limited time, listeners can get 25 dollars off their best-selling Carver Mat frame with code FEED. Support the show by mentioning us at checkout! ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rocket Money⁠⁠⁠⁠ Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at ⁠⁠⁠⁠rocketmoney.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Taskrabbit:⁠⁠⁠⁠ When life happens, your to-do list grows. Get ahead of it now and get fifteen dollars off your first task at ⁠⁠⁠⁠Taskrabbit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or on the Taskrabbit app using promo code FEED. Taskers book up fast, especially for same-day tasks, so book trusted home help today. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Hello Fresh⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I think that's a mistake that we've been told maybe that we're not supposed to hurt.
0:04.4	What does healing mean? Does healing mean that I'm not going to hurt anymore, that I'm going to be fine with it all?
0:09.7	That doesn't seem right at all to me.
0:19.4	Welcome to the one you feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.
0:40.8	We see what we don't have instead of what we do.
0:43.7	We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit.
0:47.1	But it's not just about thinking.
0:49.1	Our actions matter.
0:50.2	It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living. This podcast
0:56.0	is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good
1:01.3	wolf. In the days right after her son died, Rosemary Watola Traumae Wattola Trauma
1:08.2	found herself saying one word over and over. Not yes, not even acceptance.
1:14.8	Just, okay. She'd get to the car door. Okay. She'd open it. Okay. Sit down in the seat. Okay.
1:23.2	She says she fell in love with the word because it asks so little. It's not a verb. It doesn't
1:29.2	require you to do anything. It just isn't no. Rosemary is a wonderful poet who's written a poem
1:36.0	every day since 2006, which blows my mind, and her book All the Honey was born out of the loss
1:42.3	of her son and her father within months of each other.
1:45.6	This conversation is about grief, trust and what it means to keep showing up.
1:50.6	I'm Eric Zimmer, and this is the one you feed.
1:54.1	Now, Claus.
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