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So we've talked recently about the idea of feeling like someone is too hot.

We put them on a pedestal, we get nervous, our intentions get the better of us

and all of a sudden this game over before it's even started.

We want to carry on that concept for a moment and talk to you about how you can make the most of a situation

with someone you think is hot by remaining unfazed and in control in a moment where normally your nerves get the better of you.

Now let's think about this for a moment. What normally happens when we get nervous?

We start to fidget more, we start to move more, we start to talk faster, our breathing gets more shallow,

we get reactive. When someone says something to us, we immediately want to jump in

and carry on the conversation, we don't want there to be an awkward silence.

Everything that happens with us starts to move faster and this is very dangerous.

Because of course as soon as you start moving everything faster, as soon as you become reactive to everything someone says,

and by the way that can take the form of laughing too much at jokes.

Very often when we get too reactive, we laugh at everything someone says.

Even when it's not designed to be a joke, we laugh at everything we say.

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