whatever has happened in your life, whatever hard thing that you have encountered, whether that's

childhood, whether that's through friendship, drama, whatever, is like, know that God is in the

business of redeeming everything. Welcome back. Today is a great show. We are in the mental resilience series on the show. How do we bounce back? How do we get strong? You know, I am the girl that wrote standing strong. How do we stand up in life? How are we fortified? What do we need to take care of ourselves? What do we need from the world around us? What boundaries do we need?

How do we get a little gritty? How do we build resilience? That's what we're tackling. Today, we have

something really important to tackle, and we're going to start with our self-talk. How do we talk to

ourselves? Not even anyone else. What's going on in our heads? We're going to dive in with a

wonderful Melanie Shankle about generational

trauma, about mean girls, about our relationships with parental figures. How did we learn the self-talk

we're giving ourselves? And if you know Melanie at all, and you know Melanie and I together,

we're going to talk about our favorite cosmetics. We have so much to share with you today.

It's a really, really important episode. I'm so glad that you're here.

Okay, let's dive in. Without further ado, here's my friend Melanie. One of the biggest issues when I'm working with my clients, these are women who own their businesses, executives. It is their self-talk.

It is the way that they talk to themselves in their head.

They beat themselves up.

They are cruel to themselves.

They self-sabotaged with their self-talk.

And I will always say to them, where did you learn this pattern of behavior?

Where did this self-talk come from?

And they'll go, I don't know.

And then I will say, did you happen to hear this in childhood?

And it almost always, sometimes it's the dad, it's almost always the mom.

It is almost always a hypercritical mother. And the guilt of

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