It's the moments that we are not confident, but we find a way to do it anyway that hold the greatest opportunity for growth for connection and for impact.

So rather than having a conversation around confidence, I think the more valuable conversation is what are those deeper skills, the meta skills, that we really want and need to cultivate?

The ones that allow us to act even when we're not sure how things are going to end, even when we're not very

confident either in ourselves or in the idea or in the possibility of what is

spinning around in our head, what are the core skills that we can cultivate that will allow us to continue to assess the moment

and then to potentially make decisions and take actions that would move us forward

even when we are not fully confident and we don't know how it's going to end.

I've got a question for you how long have you been waiting to feel confident enough to do the things you dream of doing

Maybe to go for that new project or job or approach someone you're

interested in dating or maybe start a new side hustle or business or start a podcast,

write a book, make art, whatever it is, we keep telling ourselves,

oh I'm not confident enough to do that yet. But what if that was all an illusion?

What if confidence was actually more fake than real and

waiting for it to magically arrive was stopping us from living a truly amazing life?

So sure we hear a lot of talk about how to become more

confident in relationships at work in the pursuit of big visions, goals or dreams, but

what if that confidence was really the wrong thing to be pursuing?

What if, in fact, that magical state of confidence even arrived,

and it was actually not the asset or ally we thought it would be, but was rather a sign of an unwillingness to grow to take meaningful risks that could lead to a better life, better relationships, better work experiences, and more.

What if, in fact, it was the very willingness to live to make decisions, to take actions when

you not only were not confident confident but literally could not be confident

given the circumstances that was the real power move in life. What if

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