Everybody, welcome to another episode of Relationship Theory.

I'm your co-host Tom Billu, and I'm here with my lovely wife who's very angry about my microphone.

Hello, my dear co-host.

Yes, I am.

I think he's trying to suck up to me.

Funny thing is, like, no, relax. Like, okay, I'm just going to... Yeah. But we gotta forget this. Oh, this is so weird. So this is the type of thing that we actually argue about.

Yeah.

Where it's like the production or things like that.

Where it's like, it's blocking your face.

Yeah.

I don't know why not to bore everybody.

Hi guys.

I worry more about you guys.

So this week, we are talking about the holidays because next week we won't have an opportunity to film because Thursday, because we've actually now switched relationship theory over to Thursdays. And next week is Thanksgiving. So this is our kind of holiday episode that's going to cover next week. Nice. Yes, I've got some holiday questions and some fun things to do. All right, sounds good. Now, but we'll have other holiday episodes as we go. Yeah, just not next week. Correct. Just not next week. Got it. So we thought, okay, what's the one thing that people at home are going to be dealing with in their relationships over these next couple of weeks? And it is, I'm sure, in laws, family, juggling both. One of our favourite movies is for Christmases. We both come from divorced parents. So Christmas is quite interesting. But yeah, so I've got a couple of questions in relation to that. So let's get going. All right, so last week I had a would you rather, and I've got the results of them. So the question last week was would you rather have every detail of your love life made public or have the details of your finances made public? And the results are in all males, all my, all people that voted were male. This is, I'm very sorry. Come on women, wanna hear from you guys. Eight out of nine votes were for finance. Yeah, to me that's like, yeah, it goes without saying. Interesting. Yeah. So yeah, that was the result. I'm still surprised that like, you're like, oh, I'd rather have the intimate details

of my love life.

Like that's, it, so let me see if I capture this. It exists in a part of people's brains that is just immeasurably different than the rest of their life. Things that are okay and normal when you're in an intimate encounter are very different than things that are normal in your everyday life. So it's like you finances exist in that everyday party. It doesn't mean that you love or hate what's gonna be revealed in that, but it's in that same frame of reference. Yeah, the funny thing is off to it is off that I've had time to think about it. I was like, yeah, maybe I'll change my life. That's so weird because the people that are reading it, the funny thing is off the list of times I had time to think about it. I was like, yeah, maybe I'll change my life.

Yeah, it's so weird because the people that are reading it, the lura details are going to be like in their normal life, which makes all the lura details seem weird. Yeah, it's like that I'm really not doing a great job of capturing this, but I think that any person's psyche is broken into, not broken into, but frame of reference matters.

And so, like, even just think about ways of talking, like ways of talking in the midst of an intimate encounter are very different. If I started talking like this in an intimate encounter, you're like, what are you doing? It'd be so weird. But yet in this context, it makes all the sense in the world. So that to me is like, because you're asking for something to be taken out of context in like this interesting bubble that, you know, hopefully Jesus, I hope for everyone out there that they get to experience that level of intimacy and having sex and it's amazing but it's like this, it's own universe in terms of being a frame of reference. So. All right. So I've got a new would you rather for everybody at home? Please put in the comments and I want to hear your answer and I'll keep mine. Nice. All right. Would you rather spend the holidays with in-laws that you hate or would you rather spend the holidays all by yourself without your rather half? Whoa. Wow. Okay. So put in the comments. Would you want to be with your in-laws over the holidays, even if you hate them, or would you rather be alone over the holidays without your other half? God. I've got my answer. So it makes a big difference for me if this is Thanksgiving or Christmas. So. Because Michelle initial question was, would you bother Thanksgiving with the in laws that you hate or Christmas alone? Yeah, well that ultimately becomes the same answer. So Thanksgiving I'd rather be by myself and Christmas I'd rather be with you. Assuming that like I get some like sneaky moments where it's just you and I after everybody else has gone to bed, you and I would have our proper little celebration and I could see doing a little Christmas at the end of the bed or something. But being around people that you hate, life is way too short for that shit. And it's interesting that we talk a lot about in-laws because I feel just we got so lucky and that we can really enjoy each other's families like I love your family In fact the reason by the way and I know now will all I'll be forgiven because you were a little annoyed I'm sure that I was on my computer literally sliding out of the way to the intro is for your dad Yeah, I mean do you really care for me to explain like what I was doing for just know that it was for your dad So they called me up your dad calling me and I thought I didn't hear your phone ring which means they're coming Now I'm really intrigued hang on my dad called you. Yeah, and now you're writing something on that and Tim was running Yeah, so Because we set up their domain for them years ago So they're having like an issue with the domain, whatever. So unfortunately, not cool, not holiday related.

But nonetheless, I was trying to deal with it

before we started.

But I don't want to pretend that we haven't had issues

with each other's parents, because we have.

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