How to Strengthen Your Marriage with the Enneagram with Jackie Brewster

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Alli Worthington

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🗓️ 15 May 2023

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Hey friend! We’re back again for Part 2 of our Enneagram series! We talk a lot around here about the importance of self-awareness. But how does self-awareness help us understand the people we have relationships with? Can a self-awareness tool like the Enneagram really impact our marriages for the better? My friend Jackie Brewster is here to help us make that connection between self-awareness and understanding our partner! Jackie is a certified enneagram coach who uses the Enneagram to help individuals, couples, and teams get to know themselves better so they can love and serve others well. Her new book, The Enneagram, and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your Spouse will help you apply this tool to the most important relationship in your life: your marriage. Join in as Jackie and I discuss: What to do if you love the Enneagram but your spouse does not That one thing that really communicates love to your spouse, based on their Enneagram type How defense mechanisms serve us, and how to identify them by type Why active listening is crucial for productive conversations (and what “active listening” actually means) Jackie Brewster is a certified Enneagram coach and author of The Enneagram and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your Spouse. Jackie and her husband, Stephen, have four children and live in Franklin, Tennessee. Favorite quotes: “Intimate relationships see a different side of us but our heart longings are the same whether it is an intimate partner or really good friendships.” “Enneagrams 2, 7, and 9 are in this positive outlook group. They try to minimize the tension, chaos, and confusion.” “Then you have got the Enneagrams 1’s, 3’s, and 5’s, and they are in the confidency group. They would prefer to deal with situations, conflict, and disappointment but also just situations from a more logical standpoint.” “The Enneagram numbers 4, 6, and 8, they are in this more reactive group. They have to deal with their emotions before they can move on.” “Active listening is such a gift that you can give to another person.” “Information is not transformation until you activate it.” Teaching Series from Remaining You While Raising Them: Habits The Power of 1% Better (34:20) Links to great things we discussed: Jackie Brewster Website The Enneagram, and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your Spouse Jackie Brewster Instagram Anne Wilson Dawson’s Creek 27 Dresses Ratatouille Soul Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships The Bible Recap The Bible Recap Podcast Good American Jeans Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

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0:00.0	So active listening helps us to learn this about each other. Like what matters to my partner? Let me listen to them to hear them, not to fix them.
0:10.8	Hey, hey, I'm Allie. And I believe that an emotionally healthy you is the greatest gift you can give yourself, your family, and the world.
0:19.7	This is your weekly investment in your personal
0:22.0	development. Join discussions with top experts as we focus on how to achieve your dreams,
0:27.5	grow your business, and deepen your faith. As always, we keep it practical with lots of tools
0:32.5	and action steps that you can put into motion today. I'm so glad you're here. Let's dive in.
0:40.9	Welcome to the show today. You're in the right place because we are in the middle of our
0:45.1	Enneagram series. Today we're going to learn how the Enneagram can help us build a stronger
0:49.4	marriage, how each spouse processes information, and how we deal with our emotions. I love learning these things because
0:56.6	not only does it build our self-awareness, but it helps us have a lot of grace for other people
1:01.4	we're in relationship with. Now, we're talking about marriage today, but it is not marriage-specific
1:08.0	information. This can be someone you work with. It can be your best friend. It can be
1:13.0	a boyfriend. Whatever it is, it doesn't have to be marriage specific. So we're using a lot of
1:17.7	marriage language. But if you are not married or you just don't want to think about your marriage
1:22.8	today, hang with us. Don't turn off the show, I promise. Super valuable for any of your close relationships.
1:30.5	Now, speaking of marriage, we just finished up marriage tips in my coaching from the past few weeks.
1:36.1	I feel like this is the perfect next step to keep you strengthening and investing in your marriage or those primary relationships with people that you love
1:45.7	in life. We're with Jackie Brewster, who is an N.E.A. Graham coach and expert, and she's going to
1:50.7	guide us through the whole thing. But after we talk with Jackie, I'm bringing you a little bit more
1:56.3	in our habit series from remaining you while raising them. Today, I'm going to bring you the power of
2:02.1	1% better and how big results can happen from the smallest changes that we make. And finally,
2:08.6	I have really big news. I have a new free gift. So, as you know, I'm giving away so many great
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